A Complete Guide to Baby Making Sex

Everything You Need to Know About Sex for Conception

If you're trying to get pregnant, you may have questions on the very basics of baby making: having sex for conception. Is there a difference between sex for fun and conception sex? Does position matter? What about lying down afterward?

Here are common questions and answers on baby making sex.

When Is the Best Time for Conception Sex?

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Sex for baby making is all about timing. Letizia McCall / Taxi / Getty Images

Timing is important when you're trying to conceive. Many of us got the impression in school that sex any time can get you pregnant, but in practice, you are more likely to get pregnant from conception sex that occurs on just three days out of the month. Learn when the best time for conception sex is in these articles.

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How Often Should You Have Baby Making Sex?

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It really isn't nessecary to have sex every day. Image Source / Getty Images

Another common question is how often you should have sex. Some couples go all out and have sex every day, all month, and if you're into that, it's usually ok. But most people get tired of this schedule, especially if it takes longer than a few months to conceive.

Plus, sex every single day can be a problem if your sperm count is low. Learn how often you should be having baby making sex here.

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Does Sex Position Matter When Trying to Get Pregnant?

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The best position for sex is the one that gets semen near the cervix and is most pleasurable for both of you. PeopleImages.com / DigitalVision / Getty Images

The position doesn't matter that much for conception sex. As long as ejaculation happens as close as possible to the cervix, it's good enough for baby making.

However, there is some debate on whether or not the missionary position (man on top) may be best. Get more details here:

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Does Lying Down After Sex Help?

Lying down after sex may or may not help. User loleia / Stock.Xchng

Some couples wonder if lying down after sex may help, thinking that if you remain horizontal for awhile, the sperm will have a better chance of getting to their destination.

No one is certain whether this helps. However, there has been some research on IUI treatment that indicates it might be helpful.

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Is Female Orgasm Important for Baby Making Sex?

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Does female orgasm make a difference when it comes to conception?. Ever / iStock

The female orgasm is not required for baby making, and plenty of women conceive without it. But could female orgasm help?

The research isn't clear, but some studies indicate it just may give sperm a boost. Learn more about the role of female orgasm and conception sex here.

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Are Lubricants Like KY Jelly Safe for Conception Sex?

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Always use fertility-friendly lubricants when trying to make a baby. Letizia Le Fur / ONOKY / Getty Images

Personal lubricants with spermicide are an obvious no-no when it comes to conception sex. But what about the regular lubricants? This is an especially important issue, since couples dealing with infertility may experience stress during sex, which means fewer arousal fluids. (Plus, hormonal imbalance can lead to less cervical mucus.)

Unfortunately, lubricants like KY Jelly are not sperm-friendly. Read more about the effect lubricants have on sperm, and what you can use instead.

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How Can I Cope with Having Sex on Demand During Fertility Treatment?

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The stress of infertility can cause sexual stress. Noel Hendrickson / Getty Images

As part of fertility treatment, you may be told when to have sex. Your doctor may tell you to use an ovulation predictor kit, or she may tell you which days using ultrasound and blood work to predict ovulation. This can be very stressful for a couple. Learn what you can do to cope when you need to have doctor prescribed sex.

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How Can I Improve My Sex Life Now That We Are TTC?

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Massage is one way to reduce the sexual stress of infertility. monkeybusinessimages / iStock

Trying to conceive can change your sex life, often for the worse if you’re trying for several months (or years). You may feel alone and frustrated.

You should know that having trouble with sex when trying to conceive is common. There are things you can do, though. Learn more about the effect TTC has on sex, and how you can improve your sex life in the midst of infertility.

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What If Sex Hurts?

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Sex should not hurt. There is help out there. PhotoAlto/Antoine Arraou / PhotoAlto Agency RF Collections / Getty Images

Between 30 and 50% of women will experience painful sex sometime during their life. Sex shouldn't be painful. If it hurts, something is wrong. Surprisingly, only 1 in 4 women will ever tell their doctor about their pain.

What should you do if you want to get pregnant but sex hurts? What causes sexual pain? Could it harm your fertility? Get all the answers in these articles:

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