Are You Enabling an Alcoholic or Addict?

Sometimes Trying to Help Can Actually Be Enabling

1. Do you ever make excuses for the alcoholic's behavior?

2. Have you ever lied to anyone to cover up for the alcoholic?

3. Have you bailed the alcoholic out or paid his/her legal fees?

4. Do you avoid talking about the alcoholic's drinking out of fear of the response?

5. Have you paid bills that the alcoholic was supposed to pay?

6. Have you 'loaned' the alcoholic money?

7. Have you tried drinking with the alcoholic to strengthen your relationship?

8. Have you given the alcoholic 'one more chance' and then another?

9. Have you threatened to leave and then did not leave?

10. Have you finished a task the alcoholic failed to complete?

Are You Enabling an Alcoholic or Addict?

You got: Not an Enabler

I got Not an Enabler. Are You Enabling an Alcoholic or Addict?
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Congratulations! You have apparently not been doing anything to enable the alcoholic or addict in your life. Judging from your answers on this quiz, you have either instinctively known or you have learned that the alcoholic must face the consequences of his or her actions if they are ever going to get to the point of reaching out for help.

However, there are many different ways that we can unknowingly enable someone, and our quiz touched on only a few. Sometimes when you believe that you are truly helping the person, you might inadvertently be enabling. You may want to read more about enabling and the "family disease" of alcoholism.

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Are You Enabling an Alcoholic or Addict?

You got: You May Be Enabling

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Many times well-meaning efforts to help the alcoholic can actually be enabling them to continue in their destructive behavior by allowing them to avoid the full consequences of their actions. For example, calling in sick for him may save his job, but losing his job may be the very thing that needs to happen for him to admit he has a problem.

According to the answers that you gave on the quiz, some of the things that you do to try to help may be enabling. No, you are not responsible for his drinking, but you may want to learn more about what enabling is and how it affects the alcoholic. Sometimes when you are doing something that you know can't be enabling - like nagging or scolding the alcoholic - it may actually be enabling in the twisted thinking of an alcoholic.

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Are You Enabling an Alcoholic or Addict?

You got: You Are Most Likely Enabling

I got You Are Most Likely Enabling. Are You Enabling an Alcoholic or Addict?
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No, you are not responsible for his actions or decisions, but according to the answers you provided on this quiz, many things that you are doing to try to help the situation may be enabling him to avoid the full consequences of his actions and therefore delay a decision to get help.

Don't worry, you are not alone. Many of those who love an alcoholic have, with good intentions, tried to help, but inadvertently enabled instead. Sometimes the very things we think are helping are actually making it easier for alcoholics to avoid or delay the their decision to reach out for help with their problem. Please read the articles linked below to learn more about enabling and how it can delay the alcoholic's recovery.

THIS TOOL DOES NOT PROVIDE MEDICAL ADVICE. It is intended for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical consultation, diagnosis or treatment.

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