7 Ways to Avoid Being Disappointed on Mother's Day this Year

Avoid a disappointing Mother's Day
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If you’ve ever been disappointed by your family’s lack of Mother’s Day cheer, take charge this year. Vow that you’re going to take matters into your own hands to make it the most special day you can.

There’s nothing wrong with orchestrating your own Mother’s Day celebration. After all, it’s likely you’re a driving force behind many household festivities and celebrations. Without your direction, your family may struggle to find ways to honor your day.

Take a proactive approach to Mother’s Day and take charge of the celebration.  Here are seven ways to avoid a disappointing Mother’s Day:

1. Start talking about Mother’s Day. Don’t hold your breath and hope your family remembers. Remind them in the weeks and days leading up to the big day. 

2. Tell your family what you want. Is there something that would really make your day? Whether you want breakfast in bed or you’d like a heartfelt card, tell your family what would make your day special. Get specific and don't be afraid to speak up.

3. Plan a family activity. If there’s something you’d really like to do on Mother’s Day, go ahead and coordinate it. Tell your kids you expect them to pick out plants with you in the morning and then plant them in the garden with you during the afternoon. Or tell your family that your ideal day will be spent having a picnic in the park together. If you'd like to spend quality time together, let your family know your expectations.

4. Make the day about your mother. Dote on your mother for Mother’s Day. Not only will you make her day special, but you’ll also role model how to honor your mother on Mother’s Day. If your mother has passed away, choose to do something special to honor her memory.

5. Find a special way to celebrate other mothers. If your kids are going to be away on Mother’s Day, or you know they won’t be up for celebrating, refuse to host your own pity party.

Instead, decide to make it a special day for other mothers who may be less fortunate. Volunteer at a domestic violence shelter, cook a meal for a homeless shelter, or serve meals at a soup kitchen. 

6. Strike out on your own. There's nothing saying you have to spend the whole day with your family. If your idea of an ideal Mother's Day involves going to the spa and shopping by yourself, go ahead and schedule it. Choose to do something kind for yourself, even if your family doesn’t orchestrate it for you. After all, it's a great time to doing something that will reduce the stress associated with being a parent.

7. Stop negative thinking in its tracks. Feelings of disappointment can lead to exaggeratedly negative thinking if you’re not careful. Be on the lookout for thoughts like, “My family never appreciates me,” or “I do everything around here and no one ever cares.” This type of thinking will only fuel your negative feelings. Remind yourself that one disappointing day doesn’t mean your family doesn’t love you.

Mothers are often overworked and underappreciated. And sometimes, Mother’s Day can be a stark reminder of that for some mothers. But you don’t have to let the day lead to disappointment. Decide to take charge and turn your day into a special Mother’s Day to remember.

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