Christmas Tradition Ideas for Those Without Kids

How to Enjoy the Holidays without Kids

couple without children celebrating Christmas traditions by decorating a tree
Don't wait until you're a "real family" to start your own Christmas traditions. You are a real family now. Hero Images / Getty Images

When many people think about holidays, they think of children. But there is no reason you must have kids to enjoy the winter holidays or any holidays. Couples can create Christmas traditions. No children required. 

For those who are unable to have kids, the holidays can be a difficult time. This is true for those with medical infertility and situational infertility. It can even be difficult for those who have chosen not to have kids or delay having them.

Christmas advertisements feature moms and dads sharing gifts with children, and you may feel nostalgic about your own childhood holiday memories.

Santa doesn't visit for the adults. He's there for the little ones. Is there any reason to leave out cookies and milk if it's just you and your partner?

With that said, what about the sexy Mrs. Santas, made famous by the Rockettes? They were probably not meant for the kiddies.

There are many ways those without children can enjoy Christmas. Don't let a lack of children or infertility keep you from creating your own family traditions for the holidays.

Here are some ideas to consider.

Child Free Christmas Parties

Christmas parties don't have to be only for family. If you haven't received any invites to a child-free event, then host your own party.

When making your list, brainstorm people who you know are without young children at home. This may include:

  • Single friends
  • Couples childfree by choice
  • Fertility challenged couples
  • Empty nesters

Are you part of an infertility support group? Consider putting on a party for your fellow members. It can be as simple or elegant as your imagination allows. 

Here are some ideas for your party:

  • Hosting a Cocktail Party
  • Throw a Game Show Party
  • Plan a Dinner Party

Volunteer to Holiday Shop for Your Fertile Friends

Holiday shopping can be a huge stress for those with little kids. Volunteer to shop for friends or relatives laden with children.

You'll get to shop without spending your own money, enjoy some holiday spirit, and help out a friend!

Be a Proud Aunt or Uncle

In the same light, who says you can only spoil your own kids with Christmas gifts?

There's no reason you can't take the role of Proud Aunt or Uncle and shower your friends' or siblings' kids with presents for the holidays.

This isn't always an easy role to fill at the start of your infertility experience. However, with time, many fertility challenged people come to embrace this opportunity.

Be Active in Christmas Church Activities

Maybe it's time to join the choir or join a group for caroling.

Many churches host parties and can use volunteers to help plan, set up or clean up holiday parties and events.

For some, active church members can become an extended family.

Go Christmas Lights Seeing

You may want to start an annual tradition of driving around with your partner to check out holiday lights.

Maybe you'll listen to your favorite Christmas tunes as you drive.

Also, many cities host various light events in honor of the winter holidays. Some of these events are intended primarily for adults. 

Invite Friends Over for a Christmas Decorating Party

Who says only kids can have fun trimming the tree?

Invite some friends over to decorate for the holiday together. You might invite only adult friends, or you may invite a family with kids to help.

If you're the crafty type, you can even set up some projects for friends to make and take home.

While few are brave enough to host such an event, many adults with and without kids would love to join a Christmas crafting party.

Visit the Family That Needs You Most

It's rare to find families living all within a comfortable drive from each other. That means that some family members will be left out or lonely on the holidays.

These are often the elderly relatives in nursing homes or assisted living communities.

Making an effort to visit those who really need the company can warm both your and their heart.

Volunteer on Christmas at the Hospitals

The holidays aren't much fun for those stuck in the hospital, not for children or adults. Many hospitals have volunteers dress up as Santa or Elves, who then visit patients.

Speak to your local hospital and see if you participate in a program like this.

Volunteer at a Soup Kitchen

Those without food at home (or without a home at all) can use help on the holidays.

Maybe you can start a tradition of volunteering at your local soup kitchen on Christmas Eve. Or, you can help collect food for the holidays for food pantries.

Romantic Christmas for Two

Don't forget that you can create a romantic and loving Christmas for two, any year you like.

Candle lit dinner, great holiday music, and gift exchange can turn a potentially lonely holiday into an intimate one.

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Dawn Zuckerman, MSW. Email interview conducting November 29, 2011.

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