Common Behavior Problems in School-Age Children

Typical child discipline problems that can arise in 5- to 10-year-old children

Along with the wonderful milestones you can expect to see among school-age children such as increased independence and ability to handle more responsibilities, there is also the less-pleasant emergence of common behavior problems for this age group.

While child-discipline issues such as defiance and back talk may have cropped up at earlier ages in a child, such behaviors can take on an entirely more challenging aspect as children become older, more verbal, and more independent.

Read on to learn about some typical behavior problems you can expect to see in children at this age--and effective solutions for how to handle these discipline issues. While no single child discipline technique works for all children, there are some strategies parents can try, such as timeouts and behavior charts. But most of all, the key to effective child discipline starts with understanding the difference between discipline and punishment, establishing a strong bond with your child, and communicating with your child every day.

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Defiance and Refusal

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If you are hearing a whole lot of "no's" from your child or are increasingly seeing defiant behavior such as refusing to do something you asked your child to do, you are not alone. Defiant behavior is a very common problem among school-age children. But with the right strategies, you can get to the root of your child's behavior and get your child back on your team.

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Talking Back

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Talking back may be a normal part of child development, but it's certainly one of the most maddening. Here are some tried-and-true techniques for nipping this behavior problem in the bud and helping your child express herself in a more appropriate and respectful manner.

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Not Listening

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If you've ever had to repeat yourself several times to get your child to follow through on something you asked her to do or to listen to direction, you know how frustrating it can be when a child does not listen. Why does it happen, and more importantly, what can you do to fix this dynamic? Read on for some helpful tips and answers.

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Lying

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Having your child lie to you can be upsetting. But the truth is that lying is a common behavior among children that can be addressed with love and reassurance balanced out with consequences.

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Sibling Rivalry and Fighting

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As much as your children may love one another, sibling rivalry and fighting is a very common part of many sibling relationships. Here are some excellent ideas for building sibling love and reducing the friction that can lead to sibling conflict among brothers and sisters.

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Tattling on Others

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Tattling is an annoying but very common problem among grade-school age kids. Children this age are figuring out right from wrong, learning about rules and consequences, and putting a high value on being fair. All that is a recipe for tattling, but parents can help guide kids toward more positive behavior and teach children how to tell the difference between tattling and telling to help someone.

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Dawdling

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If your child tends to play and dawdle instead of getting dressed, try some strategies to get him moving.. KidStock/Getty Images

Does your child take 10 minutes to put on one sock in the morning? Is she a s-l-o-w eater who takes a half-hour to eat a few bites of her dinner? This frustrating behavior can be managed with some fun and creative solutions.

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Whining

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Whining is not pleasant to hear; the good news is that you can help your child learn not to do it.. Fuse/Getty Images

Whining can be one of the most unpleasant sounds known to Man. And as almost every parent can attest, children are born with the ability to produce this sound, almost as if it's something encoded into their DNA. The good news is that with a few simple strategies, parents can get their kids to stop whining--and save their sanity in the process.

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Not Going to Bed

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Is bedtime all too often a battle of wills in your house? If your child regularly won't go to bed or has trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, try these tips to find out what may be causing her sleep problems and learn how to help her get a good night's rest -- something that's especially important for school-age children.

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Shyness

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Shy kids will often outgrow their fears and become more comfortable in social settings as time goes on.. JGI/Tom Grill/Getty Images

while some parents may worry that shyness in their child may be something that could be a drawback, research shows that there are many positive aspects and benefits of being an introvert.

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