Conversation Starters for Parents of Tweens

Get the conversation going with these conversation topics

Think of conversation starters that are fun and thought provoking.
Just because your child is older doesn't mean the fun conversations have to stop. Maskot/Getty Images

Talking to your tween may not be as easy as it once was. As children get older they may become less likely to share the details of their lives, or even of their hopes and dreams. But it's important to keep the conversation going with your older child, and keep the strong bond of communication that you enjoyed when he was younger.

If your tween responds to your questions with vague or simplistic answers, it might be time to start the conversation a different way.

Below are a few conversation starters that might help your tween open up to you and share what's on his mind. Good luck!

Conversation Starters for Parents of Tweens 

  • What do you worry about the most?
  • If you could be a character from a book which one would you be?
  • If you could own a business what would it do and what would you call it?
  • Name 5 places you want to visit in your lifetime?
  • If you could choose another name for yourself what would it be?
  • What is your earliest memory from childhood?
  • What's the nicest thing anybody ever said to you?
  • What is the funniest thing that ever happened at school?
  • Who is your funniest friend and share a funny story about him/her.
  • What is the most interesting job you've ever heard of?
  • What makes someone a good friend?
  • What is your favorite part of the day and why?
  • What is your favorite season and why?
  • If you could relive any day which one would it be and what happened that day?
  • If you could be famous for something, what would it be?
  • What's the most interesting thing you ever learned at school?
  • If you found $1,000 what would you do with it?
  • What things are you grateful for today?
  • What language would you like to learn?
  • Where would you like to live 10 years from now?
  • If you could be invisible what would you do?
  • What stresses you out the most?
  • What makes you happy?
  • What is the most adventurous thing you've ever done?
  • If you could be on a TV show, which one would it be?
  • If you could meet a historical figure, who would it be and what would you ask them?
  • What is your most treasured possession and why?
  • If you could pick your own nickname what would it be?
  • What are three qualities you admire in an adult?
  • What is your favorite song?
  • If you could invent something, what would it be?
  • If you could time travel, what event in history would you like to witness?
  • If you could plan your own birthday, what would you plan?

Note: Save the conversation for a time when your tween isn't rushed, overtired, or anxious about homework, sports, or another responsibility. Car rides, bed time, and dinner time are good times to begin a conversation. Your tween may be unresponsive if he's had a bad day, or doesn't feel well. Also, be a good listener when your tween is talking and try not to respond to his answers with anger, or judgmental comments. That will prevent your child from wanting to converse in the future, or encourage him to keep his true thoughts to himself.

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