Coping Skills Tweens Should Know

If your tween is going through tough times, teach him a few coping skills.

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 It doesn't matter how old you are, life can be full of disappointments, stress and challenges. That's why it's so important for your tween to know how to cope when things get tough. Helping your child develop coping skills is a great way to make sure your tween will be prepared for whatever comes. If your child doesn't know how to handle the ups and downs of life, the coping skills below might help.


Coping Skills Your Tween Should Know

Work it Out: If your tween is stressed but doesn't know how to manage that stress, he's likely to be grumpy, difficult and perhaps even depressed. Your child may not know that dealing with stress may have physical and emotional consequences. Encourage your tween to deal with anxiety and worry through exercise. Exercise can help your child release his tension and put him in a better mood to deal with his challenges. Exercise can be as simple as a bike ride or a run through the neighborhood. Or, you might consider enrolling your child in a sports club or on a recreational sports team to help him focus on physical activity even more. 

Read Through It: Reading is a  great way to deal with your troubles, and to provide a bit of an escape from them. If your tween enjoys a good book, encourage reading as a coping skill. Provide plenty of reading material, including books, magazines, and even graphic novels.

Provide a private spot for your child to curl up with her book and escape from her troubles for a while.

Reach Out: Sometimes the best way to work through your own challenges is to help someone deal with theirs. Volunteering or working with a civic organization can help your tween see the needs of others and help provide possible solutions to their obstacles.

Your tween could volunteer at his church, library or a local animal shelter. Or, he could consider volunteering at a local museum to learn more about what interests him, while also lending a helping hand.

Breathe: Simple breathing exercises can help your tween calm himself in stressful situations and even help him regroup and manage events that are out of his control. Show your tween how to properly deep breath and empty his mind so that he can relax and calm himself. Meditation can be helpful even to young children -- you might even consider joining your child so that you can manage your own stress and personal challenges. 

Journal or Create: One of the easiest ways for your child to cope with stress is to journal. Consider buying a journal or a doodle book for your child to use when he's angry, upset, sad, or anxious. Show him how writing out his problems might help diminish them or even make them go away altogether. Allow your tween the privacy he needs to confide in his journal, and hopefully you'll notice his anxiety beginning to wane.


Listen to the Music: One of the easiest ways to help your tween cope is to simply leave him alone with his music for a while.  If your child spends a lot of time listing to music, it might be because she knows it helps her manage her daily stressors and complications. Encourage your tween to listen to soothing music, or to try listening to sounds from nature -- such as a rainstorm, the ocean or other natural sounds that are known to calm and soothe. 

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