Do You Have the Back to School Blahs?

Tips for Parents

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The summer months can be a struggle for parents of tweens. Keeping them busy, out of trouble, and preventing summer brain drain all at the same time is quite the challenge. But when your child goes back to school, there is always the possibility of catching the "Back to School Blahs."

Don't worry, you're not alone. It's normal for a new school year to throw parents off their summer routine. It's also possible that you miss your child, have anxieties about your tween starting middle school, or maybe you're overwhelmed by a hectic new school schedule, after-school activities, and everything else that goes along with a new school here.

If you're suffering from the blahs, the tips below might help.

Don't Over Think It

A new school year means change, for everybody. All the changes can mean stress, especially if you anticipate everything that could go wrong in the new school year. If you're constantly worried if your child will like her teachers, make friends, get good grades, or land the lead in the school play, you're overthinking and unnecessarily driving yourself crazy. Take the new school year one day at a time, and don't worry about things you can't change. If problems arise, address them one at time and in order of priority. In other words, try to relax and enjoy the new school year.

Make Time for You

You may have a little more time for yourself now that your tween is back in school. Try to mark off some of that time to enjoy yourself. Make time to exercise, catch up at work, or organize that closet that's been bothering you.

A nice lunch out might also help you put things into perspective. Whatever you do, strive to take your mind off whatever been's getting you down. You might also consider volunteering at your child's school as a way to stay involved without being overly involved in your child's school day. 

Engage Socially

Busy summer schedules, vacations, work and running your tween back and forth to camp might make it difficult to touch base with friends.

The new school year gives you the opportunity to recharge your social life, just a little. Make plans for a lunch out, or become involved in a book club. Just try to make time to engage with your friends, neighbors, or co-workers. A little socializing might also help you beat back the blahs. 

Set a Schedule

If the new school year has your head spinning round and round, a family schedule might help keep you organized and eliminate stress associated with missed appointments, or busy after school commitments. Organize your family commitments and responsibilities so that you can stay on top of things, and better pace yourself. A schedule will also help your tween manage his responsibilities, taking some of the pressure off of you.

Start a Tradition

If your tween is just beginning middle school you may find yourself missing the good old days of elementary school. Your child is growing up, but there's no reason you can't celebrate the milestone. Start a new school tradition so that both you and your tween can enjoy the middle school years. Go out for a special dinner or just make time to spend together that first week of school. 

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