Coping with and Expressing the Emotions of Breast Cancer

Letting It Out, Living Longer with Breast Cancer

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How can you cope with the emotions of being diagnosed and living with breast cancer?  Read on to learn why this is important not only for your emotional well-being, but survival as well.

The Initial Shock of Breast Cancer

A diagnosis of breast cancer is a great shock. Women report that they fear breast cancer more than heart disease, even though they have a better chance of surviving breast cancer, and later dying of stroke or heart failure.

Breast cancer has been with us since the early Egyptians, and fear of this disease as well as the treatments for it seems to be inherent in women all across the world.

Normal Emotions Following Diagnosis and Through Treatment

Here are some normal emotions that you may experience at diagnosis and during treatment.

  • Fear and shock
  • Denial
  • Anger
  • Depression
  • Sadness
  • Anxiety
  • Stress
  • Guilt (self-blame)
  • Loneliness and isolation
  • Hope

Physical Responses to Strong Emotions
As you begin to deal with diagnosis and treatment, your body will be reacting to emotions as well as surgery and drugs. Your physical responses to the overall stress may be:

  • Fear - Fear may cause you to have trouble sleeping, and cause headaches and body aches.
  • Anger - Anger can raise your blood pressure and cause your heart to race.
  • Depression - Depression may result in fatigue, and nobody feels good when they are crying or feeling moody.
  • Stress - Stress feels bad to begin with but can make pain worse or cause you to be irritable.

    Unresolved or Unexpressed Emotions May Lead to Other Problems

    You are not alone with your diagnosis - or your emotions. Expressing your feelings can give you quite a bit of relief, helping you move forward in your journey. Not all of us are freely expressive, but there are safe and creative outlets for your feelings.

    Letting out your emotions will help you get support and heal more quickly. Your bottled-up emotions may lead to:

    • Loneliness, withdrawal from others
    • Frustration
    • Hopelessness and despair
    • Feeling out of control

    Emotional Concerns and Breast Cancer

    When you've accepted your diagnosis, you may be facing other emotional concerns. The loss of a breast, or part of a breast, has an impact that goes beyond the physical fact. If aggressive treatment is required, it might have a long-term impact on your health. It is normal to be concerned about:

    • Fear of recurrence.
    • Loss of attractiveness.
    • Difficulty with sexual function.
    • Loss of fertility.

    Coping With and Surviving Breast Cancer

    You can improve your emotional health and reduce your physical symptoms with good coping strategies. It's been found that women who get help with pain and emotional distress have lower levels of anxiety, fatigue, and depression. Here are some ways to cope with your emotions:

    Getting Help for Emotions Is Not a Sign of Weakness

    You may feel under pressure to "be strong" or "act brave" when you least feel that way. Perhaps you don't easily share your feelings with others. You may be in a position of responsibility and trust, and feel like you must contain your fears and hide your disease or the effects of treatment. Sharing these feelings and struggles may make you feel vulnerable. A recent study that women with breast cancer who do express their anger, fear, sadness, and affection in a group setting live longer than women who suppress these emotions. Here are some ways to express your emotions and boost your emotional and physical health:

    • Make time to talk to family members, especially children.
    • Communicate with friends and coworkers.
    • Attend a support group, or join an online support community.
    • Find a good therapist and commit to regular visits.

    Take-Home Message
    Your feelings about breast cancer and its effect on your body, family, relationships, finances, and mortality are valid and normal. Expressing your emotions and needs will help boost your mental and physical health. Letting it out lets you live longer!  Check out these tips on how to let go to live with cancer.


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