Five Reasons You Should Throw a Party with Your Teen

Partying with the parents? Why it's not the worst idea ever.

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Teen parties are the subject of numerous coming-of-age movies, and most depict plenty of drinking as well as sexual activity and even drug use. Parents don't want to ruin their teen's fun, or prevent them from having any kind of social life, but it's scary to ponder all the things that can go wrong when teens are unsupervised. 

Here are a few good reasons to throw a party with your teen, which you can discuss with them in detail:

Throwing a party with your teen will help strengthen the bond in your relationship. The two of you will be working together to put on this event. You’ll both need to have give and take on the rules, the food, the guests, etc. Plus, parties are a great way to celebrate milestones and teach family traditions. Celebrating milestones and family traditions give teens a sense of belonging. 

During a party, you will get to know your teen’s friends. Will you like all of your teen’s friends? It's almost guaranteed that you won't. But the more you protest against that friend you've never met, the more likely your teen is to seek them out just to prove you wrong. Inviting the friends you're not wild about to a party where you're supervising will allow you to get to know who's who in your teen's circle. You may find that you hear more about what goes on in school or elsewhere when your teen knows you know who he/she is talking about.

And you may get to see a different side of a friend that could change your opinion for the better. 

Your teen will appreciate your wanting to do something for them. It feels good to teens to know that their parents care about their social circle, since it is a big part of their life. Having good friends helps your teen create a strong identity and gives them a sense of self-confidence.

You helping your teen by creating fun times with their friends makes it easier for him/her to reach that goal.

You may be able to start a trend. There is so much taboo surrounding teen parties that it isn’t any wonder parents shy away from this activity. But by showing teens that yes, in fact, you can have a good time without drinking or other illegal activity, you may open their eyes a bit. In a perfect world, other parents in your teen's circle will support your efforts and throw their own supervised parties.

Giving a teen party is an activity that will teach your teen many needed skills. Having a party for your friends is a big endeavor. It will show him/her how to entertain and be a gracious host/hostess. If your teen uses his/her friends as a decorating crew and/or clean up crew, he/she will learn to delegate. There are many skills your teen will be able to hone while planning and giving a party.

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