He can tell you if your marriage will last

Dr. John Gottman, expert on what makes marriages work

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John Gottman, Ph.D., is a well known psychologist and relationship expert who has been studying marriage and relationships for over forty years. He is widely known for his voluminous research on predictors of divorce and what makes marriages work. He presently runs the Gottman Institute with his wife, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Ph.D., who is also a psychologist.

Research at The Love Lab

The "Love Lab" was the laboratory in which Gottman spent years studying couples, when he joined the University of Washington's Department of Psychology In 1986.

Hours of couples' interactions were recorded, and data such as physiological responses, how couples argued and how they described their relationships were closely measured. These couples were followed over time to determine whether certain patterns and tendencies were correlated with divorce or happiness ever after. Because of this research, Gottman finds that he can predict whether a marriage will last or fail with between 88 and 94 percent accuracy, by listening to a couple argue for just three minutes. He found there were certain indicators of marriage health in addition to danger signs in relationships as well.

Books and information for couples

Gottman is a widely published and New York Times best selling author. Some of his most popular books include The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, The Relationship Cure, and What Makes Love Last? He also offers a weekend workshop called "The Art and Science of Love" which have been shown to produce positive results for 86 percent of people who attend (based on exit surveys).

Gottman has also released an app for couples called "Gottman's Love Jungle" to help couples improve their relationships while having fun. He is also known for his work in finding danger signs of relationships in trouble.

The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy

Developed by Drs. John and Julie Schwartz Gottman, the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy is their approach to working with couples in counseling.

The main goals of the Gottman Method are to improve communication and intimacy between partners, to reduce hostility, to increase affection and empathy, to remove blocks to the resolution of conflict and ultimately help create a relationship based on respect and understanding. The Gottmans point out that when partners can develop stronger friendships with each other and give each other the benefit of the doubt more often, a healthier and happier marriage is likely to follow.


Carrere, S., Buehlman, K.T., Gottman, J.M., Coan, J.A., and Ruckstuhl, L. (2000). Predicting marital stability and divorce in newlywed couples. Journal of Family Psychology, 14(1): 42-58.

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