How Do I Cope When Alone on New Year's Eve?

10 Tips to Beat Loneliness During the Holiday

Celebrate the New Year even if you are alone.
A New Year's eve alone does not have to be lonely. brydieleishman / Getty Images

New Year's Eve can be a difficult holiday to spend alone. It is a day that most people spend with significant others, loved ones, or friends. If you are spending New Year's Eve alone either due to social anxiety or for other reasons, you can take steps to prevent yourself from feeling down.

1. Remember: Being Alone Is Temporary

Although you are alone this New Year's Eve, that doesn't mean that you will be again next year.

If you are alone because of social anxiety, vow to make a change. Get help for your symptoms from a professional and connect with others through support groups and forums (e.g., Social Anxiety Support).

2. Reflect on the Year

The last day of the year is a superb time to think back, particularly if you are alone. Objectively examine the year and any progress that you made with respect to your social anxiety. Congratulate yourself for successes and achievements whether they were big or small.

Reward yourself in a big or small way:

  • a bubble bath
  • a special dinner
  • order a new outfit online
  • book a trip for the new year

The ideas are endless!

3. Watch Fireworks

If there are fireworks at a public venue in your area, consider going alone to watch them. Spending time with a crowd of people may help to alleviate feelings of loneliness, and watching fireworks could just lift your spirits.

4. Read a Book

If you enjoy quiet nights at home, why not treat this as just another one of those nights?

Choose a good book that you can't put down and then spend the night reading. If you really want to get a jump start on making improvements for the following year, select a self-help book for social anxiety.

Some good choices include

  • Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness
  • Diagonally-Parked in a Parallel Universe: Working Through Social Anxiety

    5. Make Resolutions

    New Year's Eve is a terrific time to craft your list of resolutions. These can be about anything from general life improvements to specific concerns related to social anxiety.

    Some resolutions to help your social anxiety:

    • Develop healthy lifestyle habits like eating well, getting lots of sleep, and exercising regularly.
    • Work on improving your social skills: Start with how to be better at making small talk.
    • Face challenging situations rather than avoid them. Say yes instead of no.
    • Tell others how you are feeling. You might be surprised at the support that you receive.
    • Develop assertiveness. This will go a long way toward building your confidence.
    • Be grateful for what you do have. Realize that things could always be worse.

    6. Accept an Invitation You Turned Down

    Perhaps you received an invitation to a party that you turned down. Maybe you would have been a single among couples, or the thought of spending the evening with a group felt like too much.

    It isn't too late to go back and say: "Yes!"

    Consider it a chance to brush up on your social skills and usher in the new year with a resolution to attend more social functions.

    7. Do Something Mundane

    New Year's Eve really is just another night. Cope with being alone by doing mundane things and ignoring the hype surrounding the holiday. Clean your house, organize your office, or catch up on your sleep. Don't let tradition dictate your choices if you just don't feel up to celebrating.

    8. Rent Movies and Watch the Ball Drop

    If you are staying in, consider ordering pizza, renting a good movie, and watching the ball drop in Times Square. These are solitary activities that give you the flavor of the holiday and help you to feel like you are participating from afar.

    Some movie picks about New Year's Eve:

    • "200 Cigarettes"
    • "Ocean's Eleven"
    • "When Harry Met Sally"

    9. Plan Some Phone Calls for Midnight

    Have people call you or plan on calling others right before midnight so that you have someone with whom to share the countdown. You don't have to stay on the phone for long; just ring in the New Year and then get back to your solitary celebration.

    10. Connect in Real Time on Social Media

    If there is no one that you can call on New Year's Eve, connect with others in real-time on social media, such as

    • Facebook
    • Twitter
    • Instagram

    Watch as people around the world post New Year's updates and ring in the New Year through each of the different time zones.

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