How to Foster Resiliency

Resiliency can be fostered. This article shows you how.

Resiliency is essentially the ability to recover or bounce back from a traumatic or adverse event. The more resilient we can be, the better off we are to face life and its challenges. Resiliency is not an inherited trait or quality, but something that anyone can develop. This article reviews several ways to foster resiliency.

Nourish your relationships and stay connected

The importance of strong social connections cannot be overstated.

When we are more connected to each other, we are stronger, and will naturally be more resilient. If you are married, take care of your marriage. A healthy relationship literally changes the way our brains respond to fear and pain and can help you be more resilient. If you do not have a lot of social support, make new friends, and take care of those friendships.

Take good care of yourself

Not only during adversity, but always, take good care of yourself. "Selfishness" has been a dirty word, but sometimes you need to put yourself first to keep yourself healthy. Do activities you enjoy, exercise, eat well, sleep enough and keep yourself well. You will be more resilient as a result.

When life throws you lemons, make lemonade

This can be easier said than done in some situations, but when things seem to be going wrong in your life, try to find the silver lining. Is there something you can take from this experience to help you grow as an individual?

Is there anything you can learn? Look for ways that your experience can make you better, even if that is difficult to do.

Post-traumatic growth is a phenomenon that has been found to occur when people experience traumatic events, and wind up changing in positive ways following such painful experiences.

Some who have experienced the sudden and traumatic loss of a loved one, for example, have experienced a shift in priorities following their loss, and as a result of their loss, have taken better care of their other relationships.

Stay positive and hopeful

An optimistic and hopeful outlook on life will help you keep your mind focused on what is going well as opposed to what is going wrong. With so many bits of information up for grabs to attend to, pay attention to the positive and you will likely feel better as a result.

Maintain perspective

As difficult as whatever you are going through may be, try to maintain perspective and remember that things typically could always be worse. Keeping a look at the big picture can be helpful in your recovery process from whatever adversity you are experiencing.

Practice gratitude

Focusing on things that you are grateful for, even in the face of trauma or adversity, can help you remember all that you do have. Research has demonstrated that being grateful can lead to increased happiness. It can also contribute to your resiliency.

These tips to foster resiliency will help you become stronger and better at being able to handle whatever challenges are thrown your way.

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