How to Host a Responsible Tween Party

Make sure the party is safe and supervised

A little preplanning can avoid party disasters.. Stockxpert

 Your older child has probably asked about throwing a co-ed party. If not, he or she will probably approach you about the possibility of a big bash in the near future. If your tween is interested in having a big party for both boys and girls, you can say "Yes." Just make sure that before you commit, you establish some ground rules, and have a plan in place to keep the party and the party guests safe and sound.

The tips below will help.

Tween Parties - Tips for Keeping it Safe

Establish Rules -- Your first step to throwing a safe party is to establish a few rules first. Figure out how many children to invite, and make sure your child understands the limit. Invitations should be sent in person. You don't want to send invites on Facebook or through social media. It could make others feel left out, and it could open up the possibility of party crashers. Be sure you also have an age limit for the guests. You probably don't want guests that are considerably older, or considerably younger, for that matter.

Be the Contact -- If your child is inviting children you don't know, or who don't know you, be sure you include your name and number as a primary contact on any invitations. That way parents can call you if they have any questions. If your child is inviting children to the party who have reputations for outbursts or other bad behaviors, be sure you communicate to your child, and also to other parents, that bad behavior won't be tolerated.

In other words, communicate your expectations so that your tween and his friends know where they stand. 

Be There -- You might be tempted to make yourself scarce doing the party, but that's not a good idea. Be sure you are there to keep things in check, and to respond should something happen. Don't allow older siblings to serve as chaperones.

Teenagers don't always make the best party chaperones, and really, it's your responsibility.

Observe Your Guests -- Be sure to watch the behavior of your guests, in order to notice if something is going wrong. Bullying is a possibility at any tween party, as is leaving others out or excluding someone from the group. You also have to make sure that alcohol and other substances haven't been smuggled in to your party. Children as young as 12 years old are known to try alcohol and other drugs, so be on the lookout for suspicious behavior. You may want to move any temptations, such as alcohol, to another room or a locked cabinet for safe keeping.

Keep the Kids in One Place -- Be sure the guests (and your tween) understand that they aren't to roam the neighborhood or take the party elsewhere. That's only asking for trouble, and once the party leaves your space, you will have less control over the safety of your guests. Establish boundaries with your tween before guests arrive. That includes rooms of the house that are off limits to the party goers.


Be the Bad Guy -- If things get out of hand, your tween will probably not know how to handle the situation, or he may not want to get involved. That means you have to be the one in charge. Let your child know that if something happens he needs to let you know so that you can deal with it appropriately. 

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