<p>Have you ever found yourself obsessing over something negative that&#39;s happened to you, and getting more and more upset, but feeling unable to let it go? If so, you&#39;ve experienced rumination, and you&#39;re not alone--this is a very common pattern of thinking. It&#39;s also a very stressful thought pattern, though. In fact, when people ruminate about negative things that have happened in their lives, they tend to feel stressed about them when they may not have otherwise felt consciously stressed. Rumination can be difficult to resist, however, especially when it becomes an unconscious habit; what may start out as an attempt to process negative emotions or find a solution to a problem can quickly devolve into a negative loop of obsessive, negative thinking. It&#39;s difficult to find a solution to a problem or process emotions surrounding it without <i>ever</i> thinking about the problem, though, so it&#39;s tricky to <a href="https://www.verywell.com/repetitive-thoughts-emotional-processing-or-rumination-3144936" data-component="link" data-source="inlineLink" data-type="internalLink" data-ordinal="1">find a balance between ignoring problems and ruminating about them</a>. What is the trick to being able to think about a problem without letting it consume you and your good mood? The following guidelines can help you to examine your life and problems without feeling &#34;owned by&#34; them--to process emotions without falling into the rumination trap.</p><h3>Journaling With A Happy Ending</h3>Many studies have conformed that <a href="https://www.verywell.com/the-benefits-of-journaling-for-stress-management-3144611" data-component="link" data-source="inlineLink" data-type="internalLink" data-ordinal="2">journaling is an effective strategy for managing stress and processing emotions</a>. However, a journal can be used for rumination just as easily as another person can be used for this purpose--<i>more</i> easily, in many cases, because there is nobody telling the ruminating person that this is a bad idea to focus on life&#39;s frustrations indefinitely. How can a journal be used? One way is to go over negative events, fully exploring emotions, but being sure to end on a positive note: discuss what you learned from the situation, what you gained in terms of personal growth, and what you hope for in the future.<h3>Journaling Without Heroes Or Villains</h3>Talk about past events and look at why certain things happened, but work on forgiving those responsible rather than hating them; forgive yourself, too, without ignoring the role you played (so you can learn) Take responsibility for what you may have seen coming, and Write about what you wish happened, but also write about the negative things that could have happened if you’d gotten what you wanted. Write about times in the past where you’ve gotten what you wanted, but it’s turned out differently than you’d expected, and times when you didn’t get what you wanted, but got something better.<h3>Try Gratitude Journaling</h3>Start a <a href="https://www.verywell.com/writing-in-a-gratitude-journal-for-stress-relief-3144887" data-component="link" data-source="inlineLink" data-type="internalLink" data-ordinal="3">gratitude journal</a>—it helps to be reminded of the good things in life, and there are ALWAYS good things that can be remembered and appreciated. Doing so can help your health and happiness levels. Start a meditation practice. This allows you to distance yourself from your problems, re-examine how you are handling your problems (are you engaging in self-sabotage or cognitive distortions?) and reach for better-feeling thoughts.<h3>Give Yourself A Break</h3>Distract yourself with something fun that can lift your mood (<a href="https://www.verywell.com/pleasures-in-life-that-help-relieve-stress-3144871" data-component="link" data-source="inlineLink" data-type="internalLink" data-ordinal="4">see this article on &#34;pleasures&#34; for ideas</a>). It may seem like sticking a band-aid on a broken arm, but finding some distance between yourself and your stressors, and then filling this space with activities you already know will make you feel better has been shown to create greater levels of happiness and lower levels of stress. Take advantage of it!