Improve your relationship in one weekend

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Many argue that the most important things are not taught in school. There are no lessons on parenting, finances, or how to have a healthy relationship with your partner. In this article, we will discuss the issue of healthy relationships and how you can improve yours in just a weekend.

The foundation of these weekends

After decades of research and work with couples, Dr. Sue Johnson has created a form of couples counseling that has proved itself to be highly effective in the research, with nine out of ten couples making improvements in their relationships after completing this form of therapy, known as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).

 Based in the newly discovered science behind love, EFT is a form of counseling with a set of stages and steps that couples go through to create a secure connection with each other.  

Couples therapy is not for everyone, though. It takes two willing parties and a lot of time and money. It is worth the investment and a fraction of the cost of divorce, but it takes a lot of commitment and energy. Some couples would like to improve their relationships, but do not have the need for or interest in ongoing couples therapy.

Work on your relationship in just a weekend?

The option to work on one's relationship in just a weekend is appealing to many. Thanks again to Dr. Sue Johnson, many couples have enjoyed upgrading their relationships in just a weekend.

Based on her highly acclaimed book, Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, Johnson has developed the Hold Me Tight® relationship education and enhancement program.

The Hold Me Tight® education program for couples is offered from different EFT practitioners around the world. This relationship education and enhancement program makes up for all that is not taught in school about what a healthy relationship is all about, and how to achieve one.

How the weekend works

Different leaders of these workshops all have unique styles in terms of how the Hold Me Tight® program is offered. There is a foundation based in EFT that all of these workshops share. The workshop typically consists of several couples who attend with hopes of improving their relationships and deepening their connections with each other.

The educational piece is offered through teachings on what love is all about and how it often goes wrong. Couples learn about the 3 common patterns that often take over relationships and pull partners away from each other. There is also a video component, which demonstrates Sue Johnson herself working with a real couple. Through exercises and worksheets that partners complete with each other in small break-out sessions, they get a better sense of their relationship's pattern and how to get a better handle on it together. Couples have walked away from this workshop with an increased understanding about love and how to make it work with each other.

Whether to attend a Hold Me Tight® workshop

These workshops are for committed partners who are interested in improving their relationships. A great place to start to decide whether this workshop is right for you is by reading the book that these workshops are based on: Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of LoveIf the book resonates with you, the best way to determine if you are an appropriate participant for the workshop is to get in touch with the leader of a workshop near you. You can find a regularly updated list of workshops on the website for the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy by clicking here.


Johnson, S., Hunsley, J., Greenberg, L. & Schindler, D. (1999) Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Status & challenges (A meta-analysis). Journal of Clinical PsychologyScience and Practice, 6,67-79.

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