Dreams About Cheating During Pregnancy

Dreams of a cheating spouse are common in pregnancy.
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Let's first get it out of the way that dreams of cheating are completely normal in pregnancy. When it comes to pregnancy dreams, they are known for being a bit odd. Some people dream about seemingly silly things, while others dream out their worries, like leaving the baby in a strange or dangerous place. Other women dream about cheating. Both about cheating on their partner and being cheated on.

This is not an uncommon dream to have in pregnancy, though it can be really disheartening to wake up so disoriented.

There can be an uncomfortable bit of adjustment to reality as you wake up and wonder if it really happened. 

If you are dreaming about cheating, don't shy away from thinking about the dream. Is it about an ex-boyfriend? This can often be a look into your past, as in "What would my life be like if I'd had kids with..." Don't panic, it doesn't mean that you have a secret desire to cheat on your partner.

Is it about a celebrity? (Don't laugh.) Many people have dreams about celebrities, simply because they are well-known, often attractive people. You may also consider them to be "safe" in that you don't run the risk of actually sleeping with Brad Pitt. 

It can sometimes be a bit trickier to think about it if you are dreaming that you are being cheated on. Again, look at the dream? Who is it with? Why are you thinking about this? Sometimes it's fear of the unknown. Sometimes you're worried about your body changes or your relationship changes.

It is not a sign that you are being cheated on.

You may also want to simply think to yourself - This is a dream and is not based on reality. Then give it no more thought at all. That is a perfectly acceptable way to cope with these disturbing dreams.

Do These Dreams Mean Something?

No matter who you are dreaming about, it can leave you wondering what the heck is up.

Studies have shown us that pregnant women tend to have disturbing dreams. This is largely due to our minds working through emotional concerns while we sleep. The number of dreams of this nature tends to go up further along in the pregnancy.

Talk to your spouse/partner about these dreams. Tell them what is concerning to you. There is nothing to be embarrassed about. In fact, sharing the worries can often help you feel better about the issue.

If you wind up feeling stressed out by these dreams, you can try to change your thoughts before going to bed. Some people find that using relaxation and imagery techniques that they can control or at least seem to control the content from their dreams. 

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