Dreams of Cheating in Pregnancy

Dreams of a cheating spouse are common in pregnancy.
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Question: Is it normal to have dreams of cheating in pregnancy?

Let's first get it out of the ways that dreams of cheating are completely normal in pregnancy. When it comes to pregnancy dreams, they are known for being a bit odd. Some people dream about seemingly silly things, while others dream out their worries, like leaving the baby some place. Other women dream about cheating. This is both about their partners cheating on them, as well as them cheating themselves.

Answer: This is not an uncommon dream to have in pregnancy. Though it can be really disheartening to wake up and you're a bit disoriented. Some women report that they occasionally have a bit of an adjustment to reality as they wake up and wonder if it really happened. Was it a dream of cheating? 

If you are dreaming about you cheating, think about what you're dreaming? Is it about an ex-boyfriend? This can often be a look into your past, as in "What would my life be like if I'd had kids with..." Don't panic, it doesn't mean that you have a secret desire to cheat on your partner.

Is it about a celebrity? (Don't laugh.) Many people have dreams about celebrities, simply because they are well known, often attractive people. You may also consider them to be "safe" in that you don't really run the risk of dating Brad Pitt. 

It can sometimes be a bit trickier to think about it if you are dreaming that you are being cheated on.

Again, look at the dream? Who is it with? Why are you thinking about this? Sometimes it's fear of the unknown. Sometimes you're worried about your body changes or your relationship changes. It is not a sign that you are being cheated on.

You may also want to simply think to yourself - This is a dream and is not based on reality.

Then give it no more thought at all. That is a perfectly acceptable way to cope with these disturbing dreams.

No matter who you are dreaming about, it can leave you wondering what in the heck is up. Studies have shown us that pregnant women tend to have disturbing dreams. This is largely due to our minds working emotional concerns out while we sleep. The number of dreams of this nature, tend to go up further along in pregnancy.

Talk to your spouse/partner about these dreams. Tell them what is concerning to you. There is nothing to be embarrassed about. In fact, sharing the worries can often help you feel better about the issue.

"I had a dream that was really crazy, I went on a date with Bill Nye the Science Guy," recalls one mother. "It was so far fetched and vivid. I woke up laughing. My husband and I really laughed for quite awhile over that one and he still teases me a bit today whenever the subject of Bill Nye comes up."

If you wind up feeling stressed out by these dreams, you can try to change your thoughts before going to bed, some people find that using relaxation and imagery techniques that they can control or at least seem to control the content from their dreams.



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