So Glad They Told Me: Mothers Share Real, Honest Advice About Motherhood


Transitioning into the role of new mother feels different for every woman. Many new moms struggle during the first few months, but are too ashamed or embarassed to share their feelings or ask if their feelings are normal. Did you struggle with breastfeeding, a colicky baby, lack of sleep, relationship problems, body issues, inability to always comfort your baby, loneliness, boredom or other postpartum issues?

If you did, you are not alone!

Blogger Stephanie Sprenger recently wrote a blog entitled "I’m Glad They Told Me," which encourages moms to speak their truth about becoming a mom. Her article was a response to an article titled "They Should Have Warned Me" by Jenny Studenroth Gerson. Jenny wrote about how wonderful becoming a new mother was for her and how not enough people told her in advance about the good parts. Stephanie's response reminded women that the experience is different for everyone and it is ok to find motherhood challenging, frustration and hard. Her article inspired a viral social media campaign using hashtag So Glad They Told Me, which encourages women to speak up about their experiences and feelings about becoming a mom.

Stephanie writes "New mothers who may not be loving every minute can say, I'm so glad they warned me,

  • That sometimes you don’t fall in love with your baby right away, and that’s OK.
  • That you might miss your old life, and crave your lost freedom.
  • Breastfeeding can be really hard work, and it may not happen for you.
  • That postpartum depression happens, and that it’s not my fault.
  • That your marriage may need a long, difficult period of adjustment. It’s normal.
  • That you may even resent your husband.
  • And worse, that you may sometimes resent your baby and your new lifestyle.
  • That it’s OK to ask for help. There is help.
  • It’s OK if you don’t feel like getting back in shape for a while. Take your time.
  • You might not feel like yourself at first. You’ll come back.
  • Every baby is different, and if yours is harder than your friend’s, it’s OK.
  • You might feel like you suck at this. You don’t."

My #sogladtheytoldme advice for new moms is: returning to work and trusting someone to take care of my baby was one of the hardest things I've ever done and I cried for months. I felt jealous of my nanny and guilty for not being home with my son.

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