Mutual Masturbation - When You Don't Want To Wait

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Negotiating Sex at the Early Stages

When you first start getting involved with someone, negotiating sex can be kind of stressful. You may be worried about things moving to fast. You may be worried about things moving to slow. You may not be certain how to approach them about the safe sex talk. You, yourself, might not have been screened for a while and feel awkward about it. So what happens when you both are enthusiastic about being with each other, but you haven't tackled the preliminaries? 

One option is to explore relatively low-risk sex options, like mutual masturbation.

It's one of the lowest-risk forms of sex that you can have. Mutual masturbation doesn't generally involve exchange of bodily fluids. That's not to say it's risk free. It may involve significant skin-to-skin contact. However, the risks of that are pretty easy to mitigate. 

Mutual masturbation can be a fun way to get frisky with someone in a low-stress way. There's no risk of pregnancy for heterosexual couples. Other risks are also relatively low. Therefore, it might be a good option not just in new relationships. It can also be a useful tool in your sexual toolkit for a more casual encounter.

Mutual Masturbation as Safe Sex

Mutual masturbation is a great option for people when one (or both) of them has not been recently screened for STDs, but they still want to have sex. Some people in this circumstance aren't even comfortable with going down on each other with protection (blowjob, cunnilingus).

They may be very uncomfortable about the concept of, even protected intercourse. Mutual masturbation, however, can seem like a relatively safe and fun activity in such a circumstance.  It's also something that's an option for people of all sexual orientations. 

How Safe is Mutual Masturbation?

Fingering someone, or giving them a handjob, is not necessarily entirely safe.

However, these are relatively low risk sexual activities. Many people are comfortable engaging in them even without recent testing. Plus, if you want to make these activities even safer, it's not difficult. You can always use a finger cot or glove.

Other Safe Sex Options

Tribadism and frottage are also good safe sex options. That's particularly true if they are done while clothed. There's very little risk to rubbing clothed skin on skin. In addition, these activities can be quite pleasurable. Many people like them as much, if not more, than oral, anal, or vaginal sex. Intimacy and sexual pleasure don't require penetration. For some, that's the least exciting part of the sexual menu. 

 

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