My First Dreams of Motherhood

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When I first learned I would be a mother, I imagined a life quite different from the one I actually have as a parent. I imagined having a child just like most of the other children I'd known. I imagined rocking my child to sleep, reading stories to him, fighting over naps, sending him off to school, and helping him with his homework. I knew I was going to have a boy, so I imagined that little boy growing up, playing baseball and riding his bike with the other kids in the neighborhood.

  I even imagined my little boy being a little too rambunctious at school, resulting in a call to me from the principal. It was a life I was looking forward to.

One thing I never imagined was having a gifted child. I didn't even know what that was. I never imagined that my child would hate being read to, would teach himself to read, would be ready for kindergarten at age 4, or would dislike sports, wouldn't ride a bike, and would have trouble making friends among his age mates. I also never imagined that I would be the one calling the school. I never imagined that I would have to work as hard as I did to advocate for my child in school. And I certainly never imagined that it would be so difficult to get my child's teachers to provide the kind of academic services he needed.

What I imagined my life would be like was not the life I would have. And what I never imagined turned out to be exactly the kind of life I had.

My life as a parent was vastly different from what I had imagined it would be. I wasn't disappointed, though - nor was I excited that I had a gifted child. In fact, I didn't know I had a gifted child for years after he was born. I was initially more puzzled by my child's behaviors and abilities than anything else because they didn't seem to match what was described in the parenting books I read.

My reality has been quite different from what I imagined. I'm pretty sure that I'm not alone, that many parents of gifted children found their reality to be different from their dream, even if what they dreamed was to have a smart child. When people dream of a smart child, they are dreaming of a child who won't struggle in school, who will be successful. They don't dream of a gifted child, who brings a unique set of both joys and problems.

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