My Premature Baby

Premature Baby
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My introduction to motherhood came later than I had hoped, but sooner than I expected.  I was over forty when I finally became pregnant and all I wanted at that point was to have a healthy baby.  Having a gifted one was as far from my mind as anything could be.  I had heard about complications for women over 35 and those were the things on my mind.

Then my son was born six weeks early. He seemed healthy but I was very worried about his development.

  Would he develop health problems later?  Would he have physical problems?  What about his mental development?  Once again, having a gifted child was the farthest thing from my mind.

When you have a premature baby, it can be hard to tell if he's developing normally.  Your primary focus is watching every action and behavior and trying to figure out if it is normal or a sign of a developmental delay.  Was the fact that he wasn't walking at a year old a sign of a problem?  Or was it normal for a preemie?  Was the fact that my son was not talking at two years old a sign of a hearing problem or some other kind of problem?  I spent the first two years of motherhood worried if my child was normal.

It is clearly possible for a preemie to be a gifted child, and I wonder if I would have looked for those signs had I known then it was possible.  I don't think so.  But other people seemed to recognize some early signs.

  Almost everyone who met my son from the age of six months on said things like "Look how alert he is!" Or "There's something going on behind those eyes" and "He sure is observant."

Most parents worry about the development of their infants and toddlers even when they weren't born premature.  Were you ever concerned?


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