10 Characteristics of Permissive Parents

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Permissive Parenting

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Permissive parenting is one of the four main types of parenting styles. It's characterized by a laid-back, carefree approach to raising kids. While permissive parents tend to be loving and affectionate, there can be some serious long-term consequences to children who don't receive enough discipline.  Check out these 10 signs that may indicate you are a permissive parent.

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1. You don’t put your child on any type of schedule.

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Permissive parents give kids control over their time. Kids often pick their own nap times - which may happen to occur whenever they fall asleep - and they may eat whenever they feel hungry. Permissive parents don't want their children confined by a rigid schedule that dictates bedtime, bath time and meal time. 

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2. Your child’s day lacks structure.

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Permissive parents don’t “overschedule” their children and they don’t force kids to participate in certain activities. They aren’t likely to set strict limits on screen time, for example, and they aren’t likely to worry about how much exercise their kids are getting. Instead, they let their kids take the lead on how to spend their time.

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3. You emphasize the importance of your child “being a kid.”

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Whether their children are jumping on the furniture, or they're racing down the grocery store aisles, permissive parents are likely to say, “Let them be kids.” They tend to have little expectation of mature behavior and have a high tolerance for misbehavior and silly outbursts.

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4. You value your child's freedom over responsibility.

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Permissive parents don’t give their children many chores or extra responsibilities. Instead, they’re more likely to allow their children the freedom to have fun, explore their environment, and make choices about what they want to do.

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5. You have very few – if any – real rules.

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Permissive parents aren’t likely to have a list of household rules hanging on the wall. They don't usually claim to have many steadfast rules and they prefer a more relaxed environment.

Read More: 5 Types of Household Rules All Kids Need

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6. You wait for your child to ask for help.

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Permissive parents certainly don’t hover over their children. they don't want to insert help when it's not needed and they aren't interested in micromanaging a child's activities.Instead, they believe if their children need – or want – assistance, they’ll ask.

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7. You seek your child’s opinion on major decisions.

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Permissive parents tend to ask questions like, “What do you think we should do about this note your teacher sent home about your behavior today?” They may invite their children to weigh in on major family decisions as well by asking questions such as, “Do you want to move a different house?” They may avoid making changes when their children object and they may go to great lengths to ensure their children don’t experience discomfort.

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8. You bribe your child.

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Permissive parents tend to bribe their children to behave. Unlike rewards - that are given after good behavior - bribes are given up front with the child promising to behave later. Permissive parents are often overindulgent

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9. You rarely give out consequences.

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Permissive parents feel bad giving out negative consequences and punishments. They rarely take away privileges and they’re likely to give in when children protest or throw temper tantrums. when they do try to set limits, they often don't follow through with enforcing them if their children don't comply.

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10. You’d rather be your child’s friend rather than an authority figure.

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Permissive parents don’t really want to be in charge and don’t want to be viewed as mean. They are happy to be seen as a friend rather than the boss. During the teen years, they’re often viewed as “the cool parents” because they may be very tolerant of teenage misbehavior and may even collude with teens to help them break certain rules.

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