21 Milestones of Pregnancy

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Pregnancy may seem like a milestone in and of itself, but the truth is that there are many mini-milestones sprinkled throughout the 40 weeks of pregnancy plus. Here are some of the obvious and not so obvious milestones for your average pregnancy:

  1. The Positive Pregnancy Test
    Having a positive pregnancy test might seem like a no brainer, but even when you have been trying to get pregnant and completely expect that your test will be positive, the sight of a positive pregnancy test in your hand is enough to send a shock to your system. Don’t be surprised at how overwhelming it can feel. You might even experience a wide range of emotions that you didn’t expect with a big fat positive, from joy to fear and everything in between. Having a baby is a big deal!
  1. First Time You Have Morning Sickness
    Okay, so perhaps you read this and you’re thinking I’ve lost my mind, but I can honestly remember being thrilled when I felt ill in early pregnancy. It was an odd confirmation of something that I’d really only seen via the pregnancy test and didn’t really have much else to confirm it. Feeling sick to my stomach was proof that I was pregnant. Welcome to morning sickness.
  2. First Prenatal Appointment
    Despite the reliability of home pregnancy tests, there is nothing like the confirmation of your pregnancy from an external source. Hearing your midwife or doctor say the words, “You’re pregnant.” This makes it feel so crazy real. Not to mention all the poking and prodding that goes along with the first prenatal appointment.
  3. Telling Someone You’re Pregnant
    Deciding when to tell people and with whom to share your pregnancy news is a personal issue, but no matter when you decide to share your pregnancy announcement, you can be sure it’s a milestone. It feels really exciting and a bit scary all rolled up into one ball. Will the person respond positively? Are you planning to surprise them? Or will your announcement be met with a cool reception? These are all common fears as you jump this milestone.
  1. End of the First Trimester
    Having the first trimester behind you says so much. One big issue is that for most people the risk of miscarriage drops drastically. This means you can really enjoy the pregnancy and quit worrying as much. There is also the aspect of the “fun” parts of pregnancy as yet to come. Gone are the days of morning sickness without the benefit of the belly showing.
  1. Buying the First Thing for Baby
    Some families have beliefs about when it’s appropriate to buy something for the new baby. This means that they won’t buy anything before the baby is born, other families start buying right away. But buying a new outfit for baby or even purchasing a piece of furniture for the baby’s room can be a huge milestone.
  2. Hearing Baby’s Heart Beat
    This is one of my favorite milestones. Hearing the baby’s heartbeat is so neat. It sounds so different than one might expect, and yet it’s so beautiful. I don’t find this ever gets old. It’s a sign that baby is doing well, that your pregnancy is on track. Be sure to take someone with you to experience this joy together.
  3. Wearing Maternity Clothes
    Don’t laugh but wearing maternity clothes is a milestone. In fact, many first time moms try to rush this one. They can’t wait for the external proof that they are pregnant. (The problem with rushing it is that you don’t realize that eventually, you can’t stand your maternity clothes!)
  1. Having a Stranger Notice Your Pregnancy
    Notice I didn’t say have a stranger touch your belly, while that may happen, it is not a milestone. But having a random person acknowledge your belly or ask when you’re due can be a lot of fun. (Assuming you really are pregnant!)
  2. Feeling the Baby Move
    Feeling those first few flutters is amazing. You might even spend a few days trying to guess if that’s what you’re feeling or not. Whether you describe it as gas, butterflies or bubbles, you’ll love these baby kicks and flips.
  3. First Pregnancy Craving
    Don’t laugh, but realizing how badly a craving can strike and the crazy stuff you may want, it’s a bit fun when you realize that a pregnancy craving is a real thing. Within reason, enjoy this craving and indulge as appropriate.
  4. Finding Out If You’re Having a Girl or Boy
    Whether you find out early in pregnancy, or at birth, hearing the words, “It’s a…” will forever change your life. There are lots of ways to find out and many ways to celebrate.
  5. Someone Else Feeling the Baby Move
    So there is a distinct difference between you feeling the baby move and someone else feeling the baby move. Typically there is a month or more between the two events. Being able to share your baby in this way is a wonderfully intimate moment.
  6. Taking a Childbirth Class
    Your childbirth class is a lot of fun, but it’s also a sign that things are moving along. You probably won’t start your class until at least half way through your pregnancy, usually finishing near the beginning of your third trimester. Both the start and finish of your class signal that your baby’s birthday is getting closer, and now you’re ready!
  7. Start of the Third Trimester
    While nine months seems like a really long time around week four when the test shows positive, the truth is the time can really fly very quickly. Many moms note that the beginning of the third trimester is a real shock for them, when they realize, two-thirds of their pregnancy is already over.
  8. Your Baby Shower
    If you’re having a baby shower or Blessingway, it can be a real treat. This celebration of your journey and of your baby-to-be can really help you solidify that pregnancy is nearing an end and that your journey towards motherhood is really barreling at you. It’s fun to share these moments with family and friends and who doesn’t love a good party?
  9. Finishing Baby’s Room
    Whether you have an official nursery or baby has a corner in your room, declaring your home to be ready is a big step. All the planning and decisions that can go into what you need and how you’ll arrange things is much bigger than most parents imagine.
  10. Midnight Ice Cream Run!
    Okay, so even if it’s not a pregnancy craving, have a midnight date night run for ice cream. Take the time to sit up and eat your treat and talk about how your life will look once you have your baby with you.
  11. Switching to Weekly Appointments
    Prenatal care just sort of chugs along. You show up, ask your questions, get answers and make another appointment for some number of weeks away. All of a sudden, they tell you that you should look at the next week’s calendar. Wait, what? That’s right, after about 36 weeks into your pregnancy, you’ll see your doctor or midwife just about every week. (My advice is to book a few appointments ahead to get the best spots.)
  12. Finishing Your Birth Plan
    As the end of your pregnancy nears, you’ll want to finish your birth plan and send it off to all of the relevant people. Once you do this, you may really feel like this baby may show up after all. (Be sure to keep copies for yourself!)
  13. Your Due Date
    Welcome to your due date! I hope you’ve planned a celebration that is worthy of this 40-week wait. While you may still have a couple more weeks to wait, the truth is that your baby could be born any day. He or she is simply working on some fine tuning of brain and lung development and will be in your arms shortly. Celebrate this milestone with dinner out, a pedicure or something else fun.

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