5 Common Problems with Token Economy Reward Systems for Kids

Learn how to reward your child with tokens and change his behavior.

Whether your child hits when he's mad or he refuses to do his chores, a token economy system can be an effective tools. Rewarding your child with tokens each time he exhibits good behavior can be one of the fastest ways to motivate him to change.

Token economy reward systems are a behavior modification tool that can be a little tricky to use at first. If you're not familiar with this type of reward system, handing out tokens and finding the right rewards can seem daunting.

But, it's well worth the effort. If you stick with it, you'll likely see a lot of positive results. Here's how you can overcome some of the biggest problems parents encounter with token economy systems.

1
My Child Doesn't Care if He Earns Any Tokens

Reward your child's good behavior with tokens.
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If your child doesn’t care about earning  tokens, it's probably because he's not a big fan of the rewards. The good news is, that problem is easily solvable.

Get your child involved in picking out the rewards he would like to earn. Be open to a discussion about how many tokens should be required for various rewards.

If he thinks it's too hard to earn rewards, he'll lose motivation. Keep some simple rewards on the menu that only require a couple of tokens and remember that rewards don’t have to cost money.

The other possible reason may be that he has so many privileges outside the token system that he doesn't care if he earns anymore rewards. Try linking privileges, like time playing video games or time playing at the park, with good behavior.

2
We Lose Track of How Many Tokens He Earns

It's essential to keep track of the tokens your child earns throughout the day. Ask your child to decorate a special cup, bowl or box where he can keep the tokens he has earned.

Then, decide together where you will keep the container. When kids can shake a container and hear their tokens jingle, it often fuels their excitement to earn more.

Sometimes parents state that kids steal tokens or aren't honest about them. Keep the tokens in an area that is not accessible to your child.

Write down how many tokens he is earning on a piece of paper that you keep so you can verify how many tokens he should have. You can even include this behavior on the reward system and give him extra tokens if he has the right amount in his container.

3
My Child Gets Very Upset When He Doesn't Earn Tokens

Keep the reward system as positive as possible. Don’t take away  tokens for misbehavior. There may be times that you ground your child from being able to earn tokens, but don’t start deducting tokens he has previously earned.

If he whines, begs, or argues about not earning a token, ignore him. Don’t engage in a power struggle about earning tokens either.

Instead, remind him that he can try again next time. Tell him you hope he earns his next token soon. Praise him when he handles his frustration well.

4
A Token System Isn't Fair to My Other Children

If you have more than one child, you might want to consider giving all of them the chance to earn tokens. Each child can have different behavioral goals and there should be items on the reward menu that interests each of them.

Some parents use healthy competition to motivate siblings. For example, tell the kids once everyone has earned 20 tokens, the family will go to the movies. This can encourage them to cheer one another on as they work toward a reward.

5
My Child Starts out Motivated but He Loses Interest Fast

Reward systems that are confusing or too difficult cause kids to lose interest fast. Make sure your child has the opportunity to earn up to several tokens per day.

Keep the reward system simple. Concentrate on one to three behaviors at a time. Otherwise, he’ll grow confused and it will be a nightmare to pass out tokens.

Change the reward menu often to keep your child interested. The more items on the reward menu, the more likely he’ll stay motivated.

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