Reading Suggestions for a Baby or Child's Funeral

Ideas for When It's Difficult to Find the Right Words

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If you're looking for a special reading or poem to express your feelings at your baby's memorial service or funeral, you'll find here some excerpts from suggested works to get you started. No matter your faith, these secular readings all have the potential to help express feelings that otherwise may be difficult to share.

Beautiful Secular Reading Suggestions for a Child's Funeral

Remember, anything that has special meaning to you and your family can make a service memorable.

Don't worry if your chosen reading doesn't seem "sad" enough or if it seems out of place at a funeral. A memorial service is meant to remember and help heal those still living.

If I Were Here What Would I Say? by Lorraine Lehman-Jones

"Yes it is true that I never got to see all that this world holds. The flowers, the trees, grass - or a bright sunny day. 
Not even the smiling faces of my loving family. 
But in my heart I have seen all of these things, even in my short time."

Light by Hugh O'Donnell

My little man, down what centuries of light did you travel to reach us here, your stay so short-lived;

In the twinkling of an eye you were moving on, bearing our name and a splinter of the human cross we suffer; flashed upon us like a beacon, we wait in darkness for that light to come round, knowing at heart you shine forever for us.

A Quote from Viktor Emil Frankl

"We cannot judge a biography by its length, by the number of pages in it; we must judge by the richness of the contents.

Sometimes the "unfinisheds" are among the most beautiful symphonies."

Wept by C.K. Williams

Never so much absence, though, and not just absence, 

never such a sense of violated presence, 
so much desolation, so many desperate last hopes
never such pure despair. 

The Glory of Life is Love by Unknown Author

The Glory of Life is not that it endures forever, but that, for a time, it includes so much that is beautiful.

It is a tree to those that grasp it, and happy are all who retain it.
Its ways are ways of pleasantness, and all its paths are peaceful.
We do not demand that the flower shall never die, nor that the song shall never end.
Nor would we be angry with life because one day its beauty will be dust, its music silent, and all its laughter and tears forgotten.

Memories by Earl Grollman

Memories - tender, loving, bittersweet they can never be taken from you,
Nothing can detract from the joy and the beauty you and your loved one shared.
Your love for the person and his or her love for you cannot be altered by time or circumstance.
The memories are yours to keep.
Yesterday has ended, though you store it in the treasure house of the past.

Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep by Mary Elizabeth Frye

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
 I am not there, I do not sleep,

I am a thousand winds that blow
 I am the
Diamond glints on snow

I am the sunlight on ripened grain

I am the gentle Autumn rain

Silent Child by Kelly Lancor

My silent child, 
our precious baby,

Close to my heart
 I'll keep you with me.

An important job 
God has for you,

There is love to give,
 and work to do.

He needs an angel
 strong but small,

To shine light on many
 and give love to all.

I Feel As Though My Heart Must Stop With Pain by Nicholas Gordon

I feel as though my heart must stop with pain.

I miss you so, the darkness will not pale.

My darling child, come to me again.

I know you cannot come, and still I strain

To put my arms around you through the veil.

Child Born Dead by Elizabeth Jennings

What ceremony can we fit
 you into now? If you had come

Out of a warm and noisy room

To this, there'd be an opposite

For us to know you by. We could

Imagine you in lively mood.

And then look at the other side,

The mood drawn out of you, the breath

Defeated by the power of death.

Vanished by Emily Dickinson

She died, - - this was the way she died;

And when her breath was done,

Took up her simple wardrobe

And started for the sun.

Too Soon by Mary Yarnall

This was a life that had hardly begun

No time to find your place in the Sun

No time to do all you could have done

But we loved you enough for a lifetime

Little Snowdrop by Author Unknown

The world may never notice 
If a Snowdrop doesn't bloom,

Or even pause to wonder 
If the petals fall too soon.

But every life that ever forms, 

Or ever comes to be, 

Touches the world in some small way 

For all eternity.
The little one we longed for 

Was swiftly here and gone. 

But the love that was then planted
 Is a light that still shines on.
And though our arms are empty,

Our hearts know what to do. 

For every beating of our hearts 

Says that we love you.

Excerpt from The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupery

"In one of the stars, I shall be living.
In one of them, I shall be laughing. 
And so it will be as if all the stars were laughing when you look at the sky at night."

Elegy for a Still-Born Child by Seamus Heaney

On lonely journeys I think of it all, 

Birth of death, exhumation for burial; 

A wreath of small clothes, a memorial 

And parents reaching for a phantom limb. 

I drive by remote control on this bare road 

Under a drizzling sky, a circling rock. 

Past mountain fields full to the brim with 

White waves riding home on a wintry lough.

An Excerpt from I'll Love You Forever by Robert Munsch

A mother held her new baby and very slowly rocked him back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. And while she held him, she sang:

I'll love you forever,

I'll like you for always,

As long as I'm living

my baby you'll be.

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