5 Reasons Dads Should Demand a Doula

How A Doula Can Help Dads Cope in the Delivery Room

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You may feel hurt when your wife tells you she wants a doula to help her through her pregnancy and labor. After all, what can a doula provide that you can't? 

Here Are Five Reasons You Might Find Yourself Grateful for Your Wife's Doula

1. The doula can give you a break. You may think it will easy enough to stay awake for a big event like childbirth. But depending upon how long your wife's labor lasts, you may find yourself fighting to keep your eyes open.

 A doula can really be a huge help in such a situation. With your wife's blessing, run to the bathroom or take a nap so that you can regain the energy and focus necessary to help out when the big moment arrives. 

2. The doula actually remembers what she learned in childbirth class. Even if you paid attention in childbirth class, you may find that you can't remember everything in the heat of the moment. Don't worry. Your doula remembers everything about how to make the labor as pleasant and problem-free as possible.

3. The doula knows the right questions to ask, and the right information to give. When you arrive at the hospital, you will be bombarded with questions, and you won't necessarily be in the best frame of mind in which to adequately answer them. You'll feel relieved when you can let your doula take charge. Your doula can also be very helpful in getting information, ensuring you have enough information to make any necessary decisions.

4. A doula speaks the language of labor. Nurses and doctors can often revert to using medical terminology that you don't necessarily understand. Your doula can be a huge help in translating such unfamiliar jargon.

5. A doula keeps you calm. Labor is often hard. You can't help but worry sometimes. It's just the beginning of a being a parent, which necessitates a lifetime's worth of worrying.

Your doula can show you how and where to touch your wife in order to keep her calm. Your doula can model how to behave quietly and efficiently. Your doula can make you look good.

Further Reading

10 Things To Help Dad Cope in the Delivery Room. What can the mom-to-be do to help make Dad's experience of the birth a pleasant one?

Five Tips for Dads Dealing with Natural Childbirth. How to survive the unmedicated birth your wife has been dreaming of.

Doulas: Professional Labor Support. Doula is the Greek word for woman servant. Today, it has come to mean a woman who specializes in helping families through the childbearing year.

8 Reasons People Don't Hire Doulas. Though not everyone needs or wants a doula, you may find that, the more you learn about them, the more you're convinced that their support could be a boon during the pregnancy and childbirth process.

Hiring a Doula. When and how to find the best doula for you.

Dad's Guide to a Hospital Birth. Childbirth is a word that can strike fear into the hearts of many dads and partners. This incredible experience is meant to be a meaningful one and yet there are many expectations of dad. Here are some tips on preparing for childbirth.

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