Rude Behavior You Shouldn't Tolerate from Your Tween

Children can be rude, but these behaviors require your prompt attention

Rude behavior must be managed before it gets worse.

Has your tween ever embarrassed you in front of others? Children aren't always the perfect example of fine manners and refined etiquette. Tweens can be especially rude as they try to exert their independence or appear cool in the eyes of their peers. If you've wondered whether your tween's rude behavior needs to be addressed, the answer is yes, it does. If you fail to correct your child's behavior you could be in for a rough couple of years, as your tween enters the teenage and young adult years.

Below are examples of rude tween behavior that you should help your tween correct. 

Rude Behaviors Your Tween Needs to Break

Failing to Use Expressions of Gratitude: It seems so simple, but despite your constant remindings your tween may not be saying "Please" or "Thank You" liked you hoped he would. Using expressions of gratitude should be an automatic response for your tween, but if your child is failing to acknowledge the generosity of others, it's time to make sure he does. Prompting your child before an event may remind her that she will be expected to respond politely to others. Also, be sure you explain that when someone offers a gift or a kind gesture they may have hurt feelings if you don't respond appropriately. 

Failing to Offer to Help: Remind your tween that when he visits a friend's house, a relative's, or even when he's at school, that he should be asking adults if they can use his help.

Helping others should be something your child seeks out. If your child plans on visiting Grandparents over the summer, come up with a list of ways he can help out, for example he might be able to take the trash out, walk the family pet, or even help cook dinner for his relatives. 

Making Fun of Others: Making fun of others or picking on younger children, children who have disabilities, or even adults who may be different or stand out in some way, is never an acceptable behavior.

If your tween displays these rude and antisocial behaviors it's time to step in and stop them. You may need to enforce consequences for his behavior, or if necessary, consult with a guidance or school counselor for advice on dealing with a rude and disrespectful tween. 

Poor Sportsmanship: Tweens can be super competitive and sometimes that sense of competition translates into rude behavior on the field or court. Your child should know that athletes should live up to basic rules of good sportsmanship, such as congratulating the winners, helping injured players, following the rules, and accepting the calls of the coach, referees, or umpires. Name calling, aggressive behavior, and taunting other players is simply not acceptable behavior.

Being Argumentative with Adults: Your child is getting older, but he's not an adult yet, and he shouldn't be challenging adults or demonstrating argumentative behaviors with his elders. Your child may not like what his teachers, coaches, or Grandparents have to say to him, but he must be respectful to them and avoid rude back talk.

If your child has a disagreement with a teacher or coach, allow him to vent to you. You might be able to give him some good advice on how to approach the conflict in a respectful and appropriate manner. 




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