Safeguard Your Confidence and Inner Strength

Simple Ways to Build Confidence and Safeguard Inner Strength

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Inner strength and emotional resilience can be learned. Ascent Xmedia/Taxi/Getty Images

The stresses of daily life and the conflicts in many relationships can tear at our self confidence, creating even more vulnerability to stress.  Building resilience and inner strength, as well as creating peace within ourselves, often requires a concerted effort and a set of plans.  Here are some strategies that can help you to feel stronger and more confident in the world as you face the challenges of life.

Learn to Set Boundaries

Setting boundaries can create greater closeness.
Setting boundaries can feel like you're creating distance, but you're actually allowing greater closeness. Dina Alfasi / EyeEm / Getty Images

 Let's face it: setting boundaries is a challenge.  If boundary-setting was easy or automatic for most people, there wouldn't be so many articles devoted to learning how.  Still, it's a skill that can really help you out in terms of stress management and personal strength, so it's worth reading those articles (like this one).  This is because there are many times that you can prevent stress or make it less intense by setting boundaries--saying no to obligations before you become overwhelmed, not allowing people to treat you with disrespect, avoiding situations that create more stress than they're worth. When you can get to the point where setting boundaries feels less stressful and you're able to more easily identify what boundaries to set and where (which isn't actually that hard), things can get a lot easier.  Here's how to do this.

Learn When to Let Go

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It would be great if confidence and resilience was just about "letting go" of self-doubt and vulnerability, but that's usually not strictly the case.  However, this can be possible in a roundabout way.  You can, for example, let go of things that tear you down and negatively affect your confidence.  You can let go of people who make you doubt yourself or challenge you more than is healthy. You can let go of thoughts from the past that ​intrude upon your present peace of mind, and you can let go of anger from the past as well.  Learning to let go of the people and thoughts that create resentment and rumination is an important step in learning to let go of unnecessary stress.  Letting go of all these things takes a little practice (and activities like meditation can really help), but it's worth the effort.  Here's more about letting go.

Learn to Take Care of Your Needs

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It's important to find time alone for self care. Here's how. Westend61/Westend61/Getty Images

Many of us are used to taking care of others and putting ourselves second, third, or even last on the list.  If this sounds like you, learning to take care of yourself through stress-relieving self-care strategies that address your physical, emotional, and psychological needs is vital.  This type of self-care allows you to manage stress and be more available to those who need you.  If you're not someone who puts everyone else first, however, you may still need a refresher in self-care.  If you find that you're not getting enough sleep at night because you're too busy working hard (or are too stressed), a focus on self-care can help.  If you find that your diet isn't the healthiest it could be, you may find that focusing on giving yourself a healthier diet can help you to relieve stress and be more productive and happy in your life.  If you're not taking the time to exercise or relax on a regular basis, you may be compromising your long-term health.  You get the idea.  Taking care of yourself can help you to be more resilient and feel more confident in yourself as well.  These self care strategies can build resilience and inner peace.

Learn Important Relationship Skills

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Healthy family relationships are a great source of stress relief. Morsa Images/Taxi/Getty Images

Social support can be a great source of strength, but social stress and conflict can really tear you down, more so than most other types of stress.  Not only does relationship stress affect you, but it affects those around you as well--those with whom you're in a relationship, those who can tell you're stressed, and those who depend on your emotional strength.   Poor communication skills, disagreements and misunderstandings can be a source of anger and distance, or a springboard to a stronger relationship and happier future. Next time you’re dealing with conflict, keep these tips on effective communication skills in mind and you can create a more positive outcome.  These communication skills can create more positive relationships in your life.

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