When Is It Safe To Have Sex Again Following a Miscarriage?

How Long To Wait, and Why You May Not Be Feeling Frisky Anyway

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After a miscarriage, doctors often advise waiting a short period of time before having sex again. In most cases, it is safe to resume having sex when your miscarriage-related bleeding has stopped. This usually happens within two weeks.

The reason for this wait is that your cervix usually dilates as a part of the physical process of miscarriage, and this can mean increased susceptibility to infection in the uterus.

By the time the bleeding stops, the cervix should be closed again.

In addition to avoiding sexual intercourse immediately after a miscarriage, doctors generally advise avoiding tampons and douching for at least one to two weeks for the same reason. In short, don't insert anything into the vagina at all.

Be aware, however, that unless you want to get pregnant again right away, you should use some form of contraception when resuming sexual intercourse. It is possible to get pregnant again as soon as two weeks after a miscarriage, so be sure to take precautions if you have been advised to wait before getting pregnant again, or if you aren't feeling emotionally ready yet.

Will I Even Want To Have Sex Again? How Long Can It Take To Feel Ready?

A miscarriage be particularly destabilizing, especially if it is your first one. Feeling that way is totally normal. No one ever expects to have a miscarriage when they get a positive pregnancy test.

Suddenly losing the pregnancy can be traumatic, especially if you have been purposefully trying to get pregnant. And even if you haven't been trying, you may find that you've already developed an emotional attachment to the fetus.

You need to give yourself permission and room to grieve your miscarriage.

You may not even want to be touched, intimately or otherwise, let alone engage in intercourse. How long this grieving process takes varies greatly for everyone. Take as long as you need to.

Related Reading

10 Things You Didn't Know About Miscarriage. Information that's good to know if you are having symptoms of a miscarriage or have been recently diagnosed with a miscarriage.

A Reality Check for Common Miscarriage Claims. There's a lot of conflicting information out there about what does and does not cause miscarriages, and a lot of it can be confusing. Even doctors don't always give the same information. For example, one might tell you that stress causes miscarriages while another claims that to be a myth. The truth is usually somewhere in the middle.

Physical Recovery After a Miscarriage or Stillbirth. The physical recovery after a miscarriage or stillbirth is different for every woman. In general, losses that come later in the pregnancy carry more physical effects than earlier/first-trimester miscarriages.

Losses that involve a D&C or other procedure can also affect your physical recovery.

Miscarriage Recovery Questions and Answers. Answers to questions about cramping, infection, bleeding, recovery time, and more.

Coping with an Unexplained Miscarriage or Stillbirth. Physical recovery aside, sometimes you simply have to find a way to be at peace with what happened.


A.C.O.G., "Early Pregnancy Loss: Miscarriage and Molar Pregnancy." ACOG Education Pamphlet AP090 May 2002. Accessed 31 Jan 2008.

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