Silly Things Your Tween Will Say

Your child is going to say some surprising things, here's just a few

Your older child is changing in ways you never imagined, and the changes will either make you laugh, or make you cry. As your tween transitions from a child to a teenager he or she will like come out with some pretty interesting and/or amusing statements or questions. Below are a few things your tween is likely to say to you, if he hasn't already. 

Things Tweens Say

I don't need you anymore: They gain a little independence and they think you're no longer necessary.

Well, just sometimes. Don't be surprised if your child decides he doesn't need you anymore, or maybe just when his friends are around. He may say it, but he really knows that the opposite is actually the case. Allow your tween to learn skills that will teach him to be independent and let him know that you are proud of his accomplishments. Of course, if your child is rude to you, it's also OK to call him on it. 

I don't have any homework: For some reason preteens aren't always as conscientious as they might have been when they were younger. During the middle school years you might need to monitor your child's homework and classroom progress, in order to catch potential problems before they get out of hand. Of course, it's entirely possible that your chlild's teachers don't assign homework -- if that's the case your intuition will likely confirm any questions you might have on the topic. 

I'm bored: Tweens feel the need to let you know whenever they are bored, hungry or angry.

While your child might expect you to provide constant entertainment, the truth is he's old enough now to entertain himself. Help your tween find interests or passions that will occupy his time, and engage his mind and body.

You don't care about me! This will be hard to hear, because you know how much it's not true.

But there may be times when your child is angry with you or disappointed and he'll lash out in the only way he knows how. A calm and quick response is often best. Your tween will come around when he's had time to cool off and put everything into perspective. 

I'll do it tomorrow: Tweens can be great procrastinators, and they are always willing to put off homework, chores, or other responsibilities for another day. Make sure you help your child stay on top of all the things he needs to get done. Establish a daily calendar to help him stay on track. Occasional  nagging may be required. 

Can I have a _______? Requests will come all year long, so don't just expect them just at the holidays. Your child may want an expensive phone, a dog, an expensive bike, or maybe a week away at adventure camp, so prepare yourself for all the asks. You don't have to share all of your financial information with your child, but it helps for them to know that you have a budget that you need to work with. Tweens are also old enough to help earn some of the things they may need, either by helping out around the house or by pet sitting or helping neighbors with projects.



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