15 Social Skills Children Need to Get Along With Others

Teach your child social skills necessary to be a good friend.
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A lot of child behavior problems stem from a lack of social skills. Aggression, teasing, tattling, and arguing often result when children lack alternative options.

All kids can benefit from learning--and sharpening--a variety of social skills. Here are 15 social skills to all children should be taught how to do:

1. Develop Friendships

Making friends requires children to take risks. After all, there’s no guarantee someone will want to be your friend back.

But smiling, saying hello, and inviting another child to play could be the first steps to a lifelong friendships.

2. Maintain Friendships

It’s one thing to make friends, but another set of social skills are required to keep them. Maintaining friends involves showing empathy, exhibiting loyalty, and extending kindness over a long period of time.             

3. Read Social Cues

Kids need to understand subtle social cues so they can recognize what other people are likely thinking or feeling. That means understanding body language and expressions. When children read these social cues, they better able to understand people and situations.

4. Use Manners

Polite children don’t just earn favor with their peers, but with adults as well. It’s essential for kids to understand basic manners at a young age. An understanding of less obvious manners should grow over time.

5. Cooperate

Whether it’s a science experiment, or a game on the playground, cooperating is a key skill.

Kids need to know how to collaborate and coordinate with their peers so they can effectively get the job done.

6. Stay On Task

Sticking to a task won’t just help your child be productive, but it will also serve him well in his relationships. It’s important to be able to pay attention during a conversation and to work on a task until it’s completed, even when boredom strikes.

7. Manage Conflict Peacefully

Knowing how to resolve conflict peacefully will help your child overcome a variety of potential social problems. Communicating effectively, avoiding arguments, and negotiating fairly are just a few ways your child can deal with disputes without resorting to violence.

8. Share

Whether it’s a ball hog in the basketball game, or a chatty child who needs to be the center of attention, the inability to share will earn your child a bad reputation. A generous child who recognizes other people’s needs is much more likely to earn friends.

9. Participate

It’s not enough to just show up, your child also needs to be willing to participate. Teach your child to share ideas, pitch in, and get involved.

10. Help Others

Recognizing a need and stepping in to help is an excellent social skill. Helpful kids don’t expect anything in return, but instead, they’re willing to be selfless. That’s definitely a skill that is much appreciated by others.

11. Try New Things

Whether it’s being open a friend’s new idea or he’s trying out for a new sport, the willingness to try new things is essential in a fast-paced world. Build your child’s confidence in his ability to adjust and grow and he’ll be more open to doing something different.

12. Accept Differences

In today’s diverse world, kids need to accept that other people have different beliefs, cultures, and ethnicities, and abilities. Tolerant children are better able to understand and appreciate other people, which is a necessary component for success.

13. Use Kind Words

Children who can use their words to spread kindness and compassion earn credibility as cheerleaders. Their words can make a lifelong difference in the lives of those around them.

14. Listen to Others

While talking is important, knowing how to listen is invaluable. A child who can sincerely show interest in what those are saying won’t just give respect--but he’ll earn it too.

15. Regulate Emotions

Whether a child can stay calm in the middle of a crisis, or he’s able to cheer himself up when he’s down, emotion regulation skills serve children well throughout their lives. A child who can manage his emotions will know he’s in control of how he feels, no matter what goes on around him.

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