How Blogging Can Help You Cope With Infertility

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By writing and reading trying to conceive blogs, you can make connections with people who understand what you're going through. Erik Khalitov/E+/Getty Images

Starting an infertility blog is an easy and great way to cope with the stress of trying to conceive. A search for TTC or fertility blogs will pop up more sites than you might imagine. A large community of women (and men!) are out there, sharing their experiences and receiving support from others like them.

In case you're not familiar with blogging, it's pretty much like a public journal. Journaling has long been suggested as a way to cope with difficult life situations.

Writing your feelings, instead of bottling them up inside, can provide a good deal of relief.

The cool thing about blogging is that you can share your feelings with others, and they can provide support through comments and email. It's like a journal that talks back to you.

Why Start an Infertility Blog?

Why would the world would be interested in your fertility ramblings? Are people really interested in your personal life?

First of all, many people out there are interested in reading about your experiences.

Think about how nice it would be to read about how other women dealt with fertility treatments or difficult situations with friends or at work.

No doubt, you can find plenty of TTC blogs that talk about these topics and much more.

You get to see how others cope. Just like you're interested in how others deal with infertility, people out there want to hear and learn from your experiences.

Infertility Blogs and Privacy

But do you really want the world to know your personal life?

That's a legitimate concern, but one that isn't too hard to deal with.

Many bloggers write under an assumed name, or just their first name. You never need to share details like where you live, work, or anything else. It's probably best if you don't, actually.

In fact, you should also think twice before sharing your blog link with your family or friends.

Only share the link with people who you won't feel inhibited around, like your absolutely best friend.

For example, if you share the blog with your mom, and you want to write about an argument over "when are you going to give us grandchildren," you might shy away from expressing yourself fully.

Some blogs allow you to password protect your entries, but the majority of bloggers keep their blogs open for the public to read. The problem with password protection is that you might not get as many readers.

However, over time, after you've built a group of steady readers, you might decide to make your blog private. Whatever you decide, just know that the option exists.

Getting the Most Out of Your Infertility Blog

You can get a free blog from a number of websites, and they aren't too difficult to set up. You really don't have to be a computer geek to figure them out.

Once you've got your blog set up, post an introduction. You might write about your fertility experiences so far, or you might talk about yourself in general. Having at least one blog post about yourself will save you from needing to repeat your entire story over and over again.

Then, the next thing I suggest is to let Melissa, better known by her amazing blog Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters, know you exist, so she can add your name to her exhaustive list of fertility bloggers.

She'll also announce your blog in the "news" section of the blog Lost and Found and Connections Abound, so people can come say hello.

Then, you should go and leave comments on other blogs! (Just look through the Stirrup Queen's list if you're not sure where to start.) Reading other blogs and leaving comments is the main way people will discover you and come to your blog (assuming you leave a link).

I like to think of comments as a great karmic circle of love. The more comments you leave, the more you'll receive back over time.

Of course, not everything will always be peaches and cream. It takes time to build up readers, and in the beginning, you might feel like you're talking to yourself (which is not necessarily a bad thing, I might add.)

Also, not every blogger will return a comment with a comment, and you will probably get your share of nasty comments from people who seem to get their thrills from making people feel bad.

But that's OK, it's survivable. You can keep spreading the comment love anyway, and you can delete unkind comments that people leave on your blog. Despite the potential downsides, writing a TTC blog and joining the infertility blogging community is a positive way to express your feelings, get to know others in similar situations, learn more about infertility, and lend some support.

Plus, it's free. Does it get better than that?