Stop Nagging Your Tween

Easy tips to cut down on everyday nagging

Nagging is a bad habit and there are ways to prevent it.
Be sure you explain your expectations to your tween so you don't have to nag.

 Parenting isn't meant to be easy, but if you find that you nag your tween more than you want to chances are you're either taking things too seriously, or you've let your tween and yourself get into a few bad behavior habits. Nobody wants to be the nag of the family, so below are a few easy ways you can cut down or stop nagging today. You're tween will thank you. 

How to Stop Nagging Your Tween

Get it in Writing: If you find that you spend most of your weekend nagging your tween to do his chores, it's time you considered a chore chart or a chore contract to get responsibilities and consequences in writing.

Spell out what your tween is expected to do every weekend, give him a reasonable amount of time to do it, and then follow through with consequences if he doesn't. You may have to be a bit flexible here. For instance, you may prefer he clean his room on Saturday, but give your child the independence to decide when to do the chore. You could say, "As long as your room is clean before you go to bed on Sunday, that's fine with me."

Pick Your Battles: You probably don't need to make every annoyance a battle. If your child is fairly responsible, but occasionally fails to bring his key with him when he leaves the house, consider just letting it go. If it seems like he's developing a habit of it, you may need to take action and find a way for him to remember his key whenever he leaves, such as a visual reminder or a morning checklist to help keep him on track. Try to get your tween to figure out a way to solve the problem so you don't have to.


Set Limitations: If your tween knows that he's not to turn on television or play a video game until his homework is finished then he will probably make homework a priority. Set limits so that your child is encouraged to do what you think he needs to do. Rewards are a great way to prompt tweens to tackle chores, homework and other duties, so be sure you use them to help your child stay on track.

Don't be Wishy Washy: It's easy to give in to your child and often times it seems like the thing to do, especially if you're tired, overwhelmed or distracted. But if your tween knows that he can manipulate you, or if he knows that you will change your mind or won't follow through with consequences, he's not motivated to be responsible. 

Count to Ten: Nagging is a behavior habit and habits can be very hard to break. Try to go an entire day without unnecessary nagging. If you make it, go another day, and then another. If you take the time to respond in an appropriate manner to your tween's lack of cooperation, you might discover another way to get your point across. 

Don't Feel Too Bad: Nagging can't be completely avoided, and parents should resist the temptation to think that they can be perfect all the time. If you're giving your child the chance to follow through with a task or responsibility, and he just isn't doing it, a little nagging might be in order. 

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