Stress at Work Can Poison Your Sex Life

These effective tips can combat work stress and turbo charge your sex life.

Jay Cardiello - - Stress at Work can Poison your Sex Life

You’re slaving away at your office, trying so hard to please your boss, meet your deadlines, earn more recognition, make more money, and just do a good job! You feel the stress weigh down on you as you reach for the squishy stress release ball sitting on the corner your desk. As the hours go by, only more work gets dumped on your plate and you feel like a 20-foot boa constrictor is wrapped around your body by 5 o’clock.

In the heat of the moment, the words “stress management” seem as bizarre a concept to you as counting calories. Even though you still feel like a soldier fighting for his life on the battlefield, it’s time to go home to your partner. You’re so stressed out that you can’t even think about being intimate. 

The good news is that breakthroughs in research have found promising ways to regain your inner Schwarzenegger between the sheets.

How Sexual Arousal Works

Biological, psychological, and social factors all play a part in male sexual arousal. Your brain, hormones, emotions, nerves, muscles and blood vessels need to work together to create an erection. If any one of these sensitive factors is disrupted, the result can be a difficulty in getting or keeping an erection, known as Erectile Dysfunction (ED). Stress and anxiety further magnify the problem.

Your brain is the control center of your body and it triggers the physical chain of events that lead to sexual arousal.

However, feelings of sexual excitement are easily squashed by depression, anxiety, stress, communication problems, mental health conditions, and other concerns preoccupying your mind. Work stress can be a major concern, creating an overwhelming apprehension which seems almost impossible to overcome.

The Affects of Stress

Mental stress is so powerful that it can be the sole cause of ED. Once a man starts experiencing ED, the various levels of stress begin to compound. The sheer stress of dealing with ED often buries him deeper into a state of chronic stress, anxiety, low self-esteem, or dissatisfaction. This new compounded stress cycles back to feed entire problem, and persistently makes it worse.

A study of men aged 20-55 newly diagnosed with ED revealed that men who followed a stress management program for 8 weeks felt significant reductions in their perceived stress levels. They also experienced less daily exposure to the stress hormone cortisol.

It’s important to understand the source of your stress. If you are experiencing symptoms of ED, it’s best to see your doctor right away as your symptoms could stem from other more serious medical conditions in need of proper diagnosis and treatment. Some common causes of ED other than stress include heart disease, clogged blood vessels, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, diabetes, obesity, sleep disorders, depression, drugs, alcohol, smoking, injuries, and prolonged bicycling.

How to Fight Job Stress

You may not be able to quit your job, but there are other great ways to improve ED! Both natural and prescription options can help. Some men use oral prescription medications to relieve symptoms, like Viagra, Cialis, Levitra, Staxyn, and Stendra, which work by enhancing the effects of naturally occurring nitric oxide in the body. By relaxing muscles in the penis, nitric oxide improves blood flow and erections from sexual stimulation.

There are tons of “natural” supplements being advertised to men as​ cure-alls for ED. Be wary about these supplements and make sure to talk with your doctor before trying anything. The labels and advertising is often designed to trick you into thinking the product is safe when it’s really not safe. The FDA has become aware of many such products that are laced with potentially hazardous ingredients that are omitted from the labels.

Positive lifestyle changes are a natural and potent remedies for ED which also improve your overall quality of life. You can create healthy, simple and natural habits to help reduce the underlying causes amplifying ED.

Create the good habits of exercising daily, eating healthful foods, and controlling portion sizes. Break the bad habits of smoking, drinking, and drug use, if you’re currently partaking in any of these. Lastly, create the good habit of better communication with your partner.

Regular exercise significantly reduces stress, helps with weight loss, increases blood flow, and boosts your mood. Eating fresh, healthful foods high in nutrient value, low in fat and high in fiber improves your heart health, energy, and moods. Controlling portion sizes is very helpful in losing weight, as being overweight often makes ED a lot worse. Alcohol, drugs, and smoking can all create long-term health problems which also worsen ED. Lastly, communicating openly with your sexual partner is crucial. Preoccupation with relationship issues or anxiety about your partner’s perception of ED can only worsen the problem.

Closing Thoughts

Eating right, losing weight, and exercising regularly are unbelievably effective at reducing stress to improve ED. Regardless of the high stress, you are subject to at work, do your best to make time for yourself every day, and do the right things to keep yourself healthy. Working out is a great way to get out your aggression and stress so you don’t have to walk around like Atlas bearing the weight of the world on his shoulders. Most of all, love yourself enough to say “YES!” to healthy habits and to “NO!” to unhealthy ones!


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Stress Management and Erectile Dysfunction:  A Pilot Comparative Study.  Artemiadis AK, Chrousos G, Daviri C, Kalaitzidou I, Konstandinidis K, Venetikou MS.  U.S. National Library of Medicine, 2013.

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