Suicidal Thoughts and Depression in Children

How to Know and What to Do If Your Child Has Suicidal Thoughts

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While many people think of depression as an adult condition, roughly two percent of children reportedly experience depression as well. If that isn't heartbreaking enough on its own, suicidal thoughts, or thoughts of killing oneself can accompany depression even in children. How can you know if your child is having suicidal thoughts and what can you do?

How to Tell If Your Child Is Having Suicidal Thoughts

Suicidal thoughts, also known as suicidal ideation, may not always be completely obvious to others...

not even to a child's parents. Part of the reason for that is that children with suicidal thoughts will probably not speak directly about them as an adult might. 

Instead, suicidal thoughts in children may manifest through an interest in and/or preoccupation with suicide or death. You may notice signs of this preoccupation in your child's clothing, the shows she watches on television, the websites she visits on the computer, through what she writes in journals or even on homework, or in the way in which she identifies with others who are depressed or have spoken of suicide.

On the other hand, sometimes a child will speak directly about wanting to "die" or a wish to "kill herself." She might even speak indirectly about wanting "to make it all go away" or thinking "the world would be a better place without me."

Often, there are few signs of suicidal thoughts in children, especially in children who are shyer or more withdrawn.

If this is the case with your child, how can you know as a parent if she is having suicidal thoughts? A key may be recognizing the signs of depression, knowing that suicidal thoughts and depression can go hand in hand.

Depression in Children Is a Risk for Suicidal Thoughts

If your child hasn't openly expressed any suicidal thoughts, it's important to recognize the possible symptoms of childhood depression, since these are often associated with suicidal thoughts.

This may include feelings such as worthlessness, hopelessness, and social withdrawal.

While not all children who are depressed have suicidal thoughts (it's more common in children with early onset depression and a longer duration of symptoms,) depression is considered a risk factor for suicidal thoughts and attempts. Additionally, while suicidal thoughts do not always lead to an attempt of suicide, such thoughts are believed to increase a child's risk.

Suicide is one of the scary consequences of untreated depression in children, but depression in children can be devastating in other ways as well.

What to Do If Your Child Is Having Suicidal Thoughts

As mentioned earlier, a child's thoughts may not always be obvious, which is why seeking treatment for your child's depression is so important. A trained mental health provider may be able to pick up on subtle cues of suicidal thoughts by talking to your child, conducting psychological tests, and assessing individual risk factors, such as previous suicide attempts and the severity of your child's depression.

Additionally, therapeutic treatment for depression can help to decrease your child's suicidal thoughts if she is having them. If your doctor suggests medication, do your homework.

Recent research actually shows that the use of certain selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) can increase suicidal ideation in children. A multidisciplinary approach to managing your child's will likely be more effective.

If you are concerned, directly ask your child if she is thinking about suicide. Contrary to what was believed in the past, this will not give her ideas. Instead, she will feel supported if she has been depressed. In fact, parental support (taking the time to talk to your child about feelings such as those about suicide) is associated with a lower incidence of suicidal thoughts in middle school age children.

If there are any safety concerns, do not provide judgment or discipline; simply remove her from immediate danger, do not leave her alone, and get her urgent help.

Never dismiss a child's suicidal thoughts in a child, and never promise to keep them a secret. Any suicidal thoughts or behaviors should be brought to the attention of your child's pediatrician or mental health provider immediately. If needed, bring the child to an emergency room or call an ambulance.

Bottom Line on Suicidal Thoughts in Children

Suicidal thoughts should be taken very seriously and it should never be assumed that your child is only seeking attention. Always seek help and address these thoughts as potential warning signs of suicide. Sometimes children are afraid to express these thoughts and may present them in a joking manner. Suicide is far too common in children, and any thoughts should be addressed.

Likewise, if you see a health care provider who doesn't believe your child's suicidal thoughts are serious even though you do, get another opinion. Trust your instincts when it comes to your child. You know her better than anyone.

Sources:

Cox, G., and S. Hetrick. Psychosocial Interventions for Self-Harm, Suicidal Ideation and Suicide Attempt in Children and Young People: What? How? Who? And Where?. Evidence-Based Mental Health. 2017. 20(2):35-40.

Glenn, C., Kleiman, E., Coppersmith, D. et al. Implicit Identification with Death Predicts Change in Suicide Ideation During Psychiatric Treatment in Adolescents. Journal of Child Psychology, Psychiatry, and Allied Disciplines. 2017 July 4. (Epub ahead of print).

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