6 Ways New Moms Can Get Support

Support new moms and learn how to improve maternal mental health

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Becoming a new mom is a life-changing experience. The journey from pregnancy to motherhood is different for every woman, but one thing all new moms share is the need for support. Support is not a luxury; it is a necessity. Support is not only caring for your baby; it is caring for yourself. Support comes in many forms and may look and feel different for every woman. 

Your Spouse or Partner

Your spouse/partner is on your team.

I know during crazy hormonal shifts and sleepless nights it sometimes may not feel this way. It may feel like you aren't speaking the same language; that you forgot how to connect and that your partner is not understanding you or your needs. Communicate! Sharing your feelings will help you both feel less alone. Remind yourselves that you are in this together. You both want the best for your new family. Understand and accept that with a new baby comes growing pains and adjustments. You will figure out your new normal, together. Be patient and kind. The beginning is hard for everyone.

Parents & Family Members

Many new parents rely on their parents, in-laws and other family members during the first weeks home with a newborn. Help from family may also stir up some anxiety or other unwanted emotions for new parents. It is important to accept support from relatives, but equally important to be aware of what this triggers in you.

If you cannot stand to have your in-laws around, task them with errands. If your sister in a great cook, but has no clue how to take care of a baby, ask her to make you some dinners you can freeze and store. Whether it's a few hours of babysitting or a casserole that saves you preparing dinner one night, family can be helpful in many ways.

Just take the time to think about this before the baby comes so you can save you and your partner from extra family-related stress.

New Mom Friends

For me, new mom friends were a necessity. You may think you are too busy, too tired and too hormonal to connect with strangers, but trust me, new mom friends are so important when it comes to your support and sanity. If possible, start researching local parenting groups when you are pregnant so you can meet some new moms while you still brush your hair. Meeting new moms may feel like freshman year in college, but it is worth it. It is important to have a relationship with moms going through the same experience at the same time. Together you will share concerns, questions, tips, laughter and stories about your little ones.

New Mom Support Groups

If taking the leap to meet new friends doesn't feel comfortable, think about joining a support group. Support groups can be in-person or online and are structured groups led by professionals. These groups discuss topics such as adjusting to life with a baby and figuring out your new identity; newborn development, sleep and behavior; common parenting anxieties and how to lessen them; the impact of baby on relationship with your partner; body changes and dealing with body image after birth, and dealing with fussiness, crying and colic.

In-person support groups are a great way to meet new moms, but if you feel more comfortable at home, you can try an online support group. There are groups dedicated to maternal support and have online resources and forums, such as Postpartum Progress, where you can chat with other new moms, share your concerns and ask questions.

Postpartum Doula

A postpartum doula provides support for the mom and the rest of the family. A doula will help the new mom with her recovery, will educate and support with breastfeeding and bottle feeding and establishing newborn procedures and routine. The postpartum doula's job is to make the mom comfortable and confident in her new role and to nurture independence for the entire he family. 

Baby Nurse 

Unlike a doula, a baby nurse's role is to focus more on the newborn. A baby nurse will hold the baby throughout the day, bring the baby to mom to be fed, change and soothe the baby after feeding. A baby nurses can ease the burden for new dads who may not feel comfortable with a new baby. If a husband can't take time off from work, he knows that he is not leaving his wife alone. 


Becoming a new mom can bring on many different emotions. Baby blues are a normal part of motherhood but for some women, this sad feeling does not go away. If you are experiencing sadness, anxiety or feeling overwhelmed, you should seek out professional help. Speaking to a therapist trained in maternal mental health can help you understand your emotions and feel supported during this difficult time.

New moms, you are not alone. During Maternal Mental Health Awareness Month, I encourage all moms to seek out support and resources. Go to Postpartum Support International for information and education about postpartum health. You are not alone. You are not to blame. Support is vital for new moms to maintain their health, physically, emotionally and mentally. Make your needs a priortity and find the support that works for you.

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