Before You Talk to Your Tween About Puberty

Tips and Suggestions Before the Conversation

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Puberty can be a confusing time for a tween, and for parents. As a child changes, so does his mood, body, interests, and even family dynamics can change. Here's what parents should know before their child hits puberty. And don't worry, talking with your tween about puberty doesn't have to be uncomfortable, as long as you're prepared.

Puberty Basics

Tweens change at their own pace, and that can make things awkward for those who enter puberty before or after their peers.

Girls typically begin experiencing the first signs of puberty between the ages of 8 and 12. Boys begin later, typically between the ages of 9 and 14.

About Those Changes

Puberty is all about change, and to a tween, change can be pretty scary. Be sure you know what to expect, so you can prepare your child for the changes ahead and talk to him about puberty and its challenges and rewards. Keep in mind that some tweens adjust easily to change, while others find it stressful and depressing.

Resources for Girls

There are a number of resources available to girls approaching puberty. Books and kits range from very informative to just covering the basics. Decide which approach is best for your tween, then shop around for one that works for her.

Resources for Boys

There just don't seem to be as many resources for boys entering puberty as there are for girls. But it only takes one good source to give your child the information, and confidence he needs.

    Making it Positive

    It's easy for tweens to only see the negatives about growing older, and changing. But puberty isn't all bad. Be sure you point out the positive aspects of change, growing up, taking on more responsibility, and learning more things.

    Other Considerations

    It can be uncomfortable and exciting to see your tween take an interest in the opposite sex, dating, and growing up. Life happens pretty quickly, so be sure you're prepared for the changes ahead, in order to discuss family values, expectations, responsibilities, and more.

    Just for Girls

    Girls often worry that they'll get their first period while they're away from home. Be sure you prepare your daughter for the experience ahead of time, in case you can't be there when the time comes.

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