The Best Consequences for Teens Who Break Curfew

Give your teen consequences for staying out past curfew.
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Establishing a clear curfew is a helpful way for you to balance your teen’s need for freedom, with your responsibility to make sure he’s safe. Arriving home on time is a good way for your teen to start showing his ability to behave responsibly.

If your child comes home late, don’t waste your energy yelling and skip the long lecture. Those techniques aren’t likely to be effective. Instead, create consequences that teach your teen life lessons.

Here are the most effective ways to respond when your teen breaks curfew: 

1. Temporarily Reduce the Curfew Time

If your teen arrives home 20 minutes late, make his curfew 20 minutes earlier for a week. This logical consequence will help remind him of the importance of being home on time in the future. This can be especially effective if your teen is less an hour late for his curfew, and if it’s an infrequent violation.

2. Create Added Restrictions

If your teen comes home more than an hour late, or he breaks curfew a few times, added restrictions may be necessary to help him learn from his mistakes. Ground him from spending time with his friends for the weekend or take away his electronics for 24 hours.

Avoid taking away privileges for an extended time however. Restricting your child’s access to electronics for a month, for example, will demotivate your child and can lead to rebellion.

3. Problem-Solve Together

If your teen violates curfew, turn it into an opportunity to teach him to be more responsible.

Work together to problem-solve how he can be home on time in the future.

For example, encourage him to set an alarm on his cellphone 30 minutes before curfew time. The alarm may help him remember when to start heading home. Rather than texting him to remind him to come home, that alarm could help him make a good choice on his own.

4. Allow Your Teen to Earn Extra Freedom

A lot of teens miss their curfew because they claim their curfew time is too early. Let your teen know that until he can arrive home on time for his current curfew, you won’t extend his curfew time.

Create an incentive for him however, to arrive home on time. Let him know that if he’s home on time every day for two weeks, you’ll extend his Friday night curfew by 30 minutes. Rewarding good behavior can go a long way toward keeping your teen motivated to follow the rules.

5. Call the Police if You Have Safety Concerns

Make it clear to your teen that if you have any safety concerns, you won’t hesitate to call the police. If your teen is late for curfew and he’s not answering your calls or text messages, there may be times a call to the police is warranted. A phone call to the police shouldn’t be used as a threat or a punishment – but it should be used when you have legitimate safety concerns. 

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