There is No Such Thing as "Just One" Cigarette

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When we quit smoking, most of us go through a fair amount of junkie thinking - the internal battle between nicotine addiction and ourselves. And, early on in smoking cessation, that dialogue can seem relentless. It's persistent, annoying and exhausting.

It is however, temporaryThe less attention you give to unhealthy thoughts of smoking, the better. But how?

Don't Give Junkie Thoughts Power

It's important to realize ahead of time that the mental contortions you're going to experience are a normal part of the recovery process.

Don't panic and think you're failing because you crave a cigarette. Think of that inner chatter as a sign of healing, because that is exactly what it is.

Time will lessen the pull of thoughts that trigger cravings to smoke.  In the meantime, use distraction as a tool to jolt yourself out of them as they come up.

Create a list of activities you can do at a moment's notice so that you're not left struggling when the urge to smoke hits.  Be proactive and know that with each urge you overcome, your brain is registering new ways of coping. In time, it will be easier to redirect yourself, and with more time, thoughts of smoking will lose their power entirely. 

Some Days Will Be Worse Than Others

Such is smoking cessation, and such is life. On days when simple distractions don't work and you're feeling agitated and unhappy, pull out a different list - one that details rewards tailored to your interests.

Create a List of Rewards

Most of us tend to neglect our own comfort in favor of our loved ones.  We put them first on the list, and while this is admirable, it is important to take care of our own needs, especially during smoking cessation.

Put a list together of ways to pamper yourself.  Include items that you know will make you feel good and will rejuvenate your body and mind after a hard day.

Ideas could include:

  • Dinner out or dinner in with take-out (or have someone else in the family cook!)
  • Taking a long walk in nature with the dog.
  • Give yourself an hour to soak in a long hot bath.
  • Relax with a good book in a quiet room.
  • Head to the gym for a workout and a swim.
  • Take a power nap.
  • Schedule some time to work on a hobby you enjoy.

Whatever the treat, make it self-indulgent and guilt-free. You're working hard to recover from a tough addiction, and a little positive reinforcement goes a long way. If all else fails, put your mind on ignore and go to bed earlier than usual. Tomorrow will be a better day.

There is No Such Thing as Just One Cigarette

As ex-smokers are fond of saying, cigarettes travel in packs.   Research shows that upwards of 90% of ex-smokers who smoke one cigarette after quitting can't stop there and end up in a full-blown smoking relapse.

If you decide to go ahead and smoke just one, chances are you'll be back to smoking as much as you used to again soon. Don't kid yourself that you can control nicotine once you get a taste of it.

 It just doesn't work that way for nicotine addicts.  The only way to keep the beast at bay is to keep nicotine out of your system.

There is No Such Thing as Just One Cigarette.

If you absolutely cannot get thoughts of smoking out of your mind and think you're about to cave in and smoke, stop what you're doing right now.  Sit down with a pen and paper and honestly answer the questions below.  (Or, answer these questions in advance and carry them with you to review when needed.)

  • Thinking back to the day I quit, how was I feeling about smoking?
  • How many years did I smoke?  How long did I dream of stopping?
  • If I go back to smoking will I want to quit again?  Will I wish I hadn't lit up?
  • When will I quit again?  Will it be weeks...months...years? When illness strikes?
  • What benefits will smoking offer me?
  • Is smoking now worth giving up all of the work I've invested in cessation?
  • Will quitting be any easier the next time around?

Taking an honest look at these questions and their answers will help you find balance when the urge to smoke seems so important that you're ready to throw everything you've worked for away and give in.

Keep your memory green and don't lose sight of the reasons you quit smoking. They are no less true today than they were when you quit, but if you're not careful, they can feel less critical.

Cigarettes offer you nothing of value.  

The truth of the matter is that smoking offers you nothing of value, and that empty feeling you have that smoking used to fill will go away in time...as long as you don't smoke.

I have yet to talk to a long-time ex-smoker who says they wish they hadn't quit.  Not one of them say they miss smoking, either.  

Recovery from nicotine addiction can feel like it will never end, but that's just not true. It does take time to reprogram old associations, but it doesn't take forever.

Be patient with yourself and allow the healing process to take place, regardless of how long it takes. Nurture and protect your quit program because it's the path to the healthier and happier life that you deserve.

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