9 Things Calm Parents Do

Calm parents experience inner peace even in the midst of outer chaos.
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Messy rooms, colossal meltdowns, and consistent misbehavior frazzles most parents at one time or another. But there are some people who handle parenting mishaps and difficulties with a sense of inner peace and outer calm, which tends to mystify those around them.

If you’re hoping to yell a little less often and feel less stressed out, a few small changes can go a long way. Here are nine things calm parents do:

1. They Manage Their Stress Levels

Calm parents strive to maintain a healthy lifestyle so they can manage their stress in a healthy way. They know that stress from a difficult job, strained marriage, and an overstretched budget will spill over into their parenting. They create healthy stress reduction strategies, like getting plenty of exercise and spending time with friends, so they can be more tolerant with their children.

2. They Monitor their Frustration

Calm parents monitor their frustration level. They know when they’re anger is on the rise and they take steps to remedy the situation quickly. They’re not afraid to step away for a few minutes or put themselves in time-out to avoid yelling, arguing, or getting into power struggles.

3. They Prevent Behavior Problems

Calm parents focus on being proactive, rather than reactive. They give their children tasks to keep them out of trouble, they explain their expectations ahead of time, and they intervene quickly when there is a sign of trouble.

As a result, they’re able to prevent a lot of temper tantrums and behavior problems before they start.

4. They Focus on Controlling Themselves, Not Their Children

Calm parents know they can’t force their children to stop crying or sit still. So rather than panic when their children misbehave, they follow through with consequences that will teach them to make better choices next time.

In the meantime, they focus on managing their own emotions and being a good role model.

5. They Use Effective Consequences

Calm parents don’t play around with half-hearted consequences. They know what works. While taking away video games may work for one child, time-out may be the most effective consequence for another. They have confidence the consequences they employ will serve as a teaching tool, rather than a punishment.

6. They offer a Single Warning

You won’t see a calm parent nagging, begging, and making repeated threats. Instead, they offer one warning only. Then, they leave it up to the child to make a choice - follow through with the directions or experience the consequences.

7. They Say What They Mean and Mean What They Say

Calm parents don’t use idle warnings or over-the-top threats that they don’t plan to enforce. Instead, they make it clear that their words have meaning. They follow through with consequences and show their children they mean what they say.

8. They Keep the Big Picture in Mind

All parents experience bad days and difficult times.

But calm parents, keep the big picture in mind. They don’t let themselves exaggerate their hardships. Instead, they keep a realistic outlook. They know that difficult times are part of raising a child who will become a responsible adult.

9. They Maintain a Sense of Humor

Calm parents are able to see the humor that accompanies parenthood. Big messes, ridiculous squabbles, and embarrassing moments don’t have to be super serious. No matter what circumstances they face, they believe a little light-hearted laughter is the best medicine.

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