Understanding ADHD Children and Anger

Why Do Some Kids with ADHD Have Issues with Anger Control?

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Some kids with ADHD experience frequent anger outbursts. These outbursts can get them into trouble at school, make it hard to maintain friendships and also put a strain on family life. Their anger might pass quickly, but the damage it causes can be long lasting.

Here Are 7 Reasons Why Having ADHD Can Result in Anger Problems:


1.The Impulsive nature of ADHD means that if your child feels angry, they communicate it right away.

They don’t have the few seconds of lead time that a child without ADHD has, and they haven’t yet developed strategies that adults with ADHD develop.

2. Kids and adults with ADHD tend to be emotional sensitive and feel things very deeply. They also have a hard time regulating those feelings. This can cause them to cry easily (which can be very embarrassing for them) or feel intensely angry.

3. Moods change very quickly throughout the day when you have ADHD. There can be many episodes of happiness, sadness and frustration in one afternoon.

4. Low tolerance to frustration can mean that your child feels frustrated quickly, and this can cause anger outbursts.

5. Low self-esteem and feeling anxious about a situation they can’t control can also lead to your child feeling anger.

6.Sometimes children experience a difficult period when their stimulant medications are wearing off resulting in increased meltdowns and tantrums.

7. The energy and restlessness that comes along with ADHD may be too much to handle at times until it finally bubbles over into angry words or physical reactions.

Oppositional Defiant Disorder

Approximately one third of all children with ADHD also have a condition called Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD).

Children with ODD display defiant, hostile behaviors towards authority figures.

They often lose their temper, frequently argue with adults, actively defy rules, blame others, deliberately annoy others, are touchy, easily annoyed and behave in angry, resentful ways overall. Obviously, some oppositional behaviors are expected in children, and ODD is only diagnosed if the pattern of behavior is significantly more intense and frequent when compared to other children of the same age. If you think your child might have ODD, book an appointment with your pediatrician. 

Here are some suggestions to help your child manage their frustration and anger. 

Daily Exercise


If anger is an issue for your child, be sure to provide appropriate outlets. Strenuous outdoor play and exercise can be very powerful releases for children with ADHD. Running, jumping, skipping, climbing –- these basic physical activities will help release some of the tension, restlessness, and extra energy that often accompanies ADHD.

  Make sure your child is engaging in this type of play daily.  


A Martial Art


Consider enrolling your child in a martial arts class. A martial art is an excellent exercise choice for a ADHD child.  It helps develop self-discipline and self-control, which in turn helps with impulsivity. It also improves self-esteem and is an excellent way to release energy. 


Use Words


Encourage your child to ‘use their words’ rather than get angry.  To begin with, it might be hard for them because it is a new skill..  However, with practice and a little help from you it will become easier. Being able to articulate how they are feeling lessens their need to express themselves through anger. For example, ‘Jimmy took my red car and I feel mad’.


Limit Television and Video Games


Supervise the programs your child watches on television or on the computer. Much of the media on T.V., movies, video games, etc. is violent, aggressive and inappropriate. Children with impulse control problems may be more easily influenced by the aggressive reactions they see. Set rules around these programs, and explain to your child why it is not appropriate to watch these shows (or play these video games).


Set Clear Rules and Enforce them Consistently


Make sure you have clear house rules around behavior. When your child is settled and able to talk, sit down and come up with the rules together. Discuss expectations and consequences for behaviors, including a reward system. Then once they are in place, stick to them. Don’t change the rules or make up consequences in the middle of an outburst. Be matter of fact. If this happens then this is the consequence.  Strong boundaries are helpful for you both.

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