Weird Doctor - Patient Interactions

The idea of going to the doctor can be a source of anxiety. However, for most people, the actual visit to the doctor usually turns out to be far more pleasant than anticipated. In fact, most patients like their doctors and appreciate the interaction with the whole medical team.

A doctor visit, unlike the negative stereotype, turns out to be an opportunity to get much needed attention for health problems, to feel better, and to understand which medical treatments and lifestyle habits can help you feel better or worse.

The partnership between a patient and health care providers in stroke recovery helps build a customized plan for recovery, including medication, risk factor management, and even possibly even inclusion in experimental research.

When the Doctor Visit is Stressful 

Unfortunately, sometimes, a visit to the doctor can be stressful. Sometimes patients don't click with the doctor. If you sense that the provider patient relationship isn't what you want or expect, there are steps you can take to find another provider who is a better fit.

If you want to make sure that you are doing your part in building a healthy patient provider interaction, you might be interested to know some things that patients do and say that can interfere with effective communication and actually 'scare' some people in your health care team.

'Everyone is Out to Get Me'

The patient who says, 'everybody lies. I know they are hiding something.' When health care providers feel that a patient may have been shortchanged in some way, they want to help.

But when doctors hear from a patient that everybody is 'out to get me,' they have a hard time deciphering whether the patient is paranoid or whether something really went wrong. When health care providers encounter patients who consistently display a suspicious attitude, it is not uncommon for providers to try to refer the patients to other competent health care specialists to unload some of the interpersonal burden.


'My Body is Just Different'

When health care professionals hear, 'My body doesn't work like everyone else's,' or 'don't try the same things on me that you use with other people,' they know they are in for a tough challenge. It is a basic cornerstone of medical science that the human body follows physiologic rules, and that each person is unique, and therefore, is a little different.

In fact, that is exactly why computers have not been quite able to be programmed to take care of real patients- because people are individuals and do not function like robots. Your doctors and health care providers know that you are unique and that you deserve individual attention.  However, when someone says that his or her body is completely different than everyone else's or more exceptional than anyone else's- most health care professionals will feel they are in for a lose- lose situation. 

'I'm going to Bring Then All Down!'

When a health care provider hears anger as a main point of the clinical patient care visit, as in, 'I want to get them fired' or, 'I want to shut that place down,' it can color the perception of the patient’s medical problems.

Even the most intuitive and empathetic doctor or nurse may have trouble distinguishing actual medical ailments from medical complaints that are exaggerated to get someone into trouble. 

'You are All Quacks'

When a health care professional trained in western medicine or holistic medicine or integrative medicine hears, 'I don't believe in chemicals,' or 'modern medicine is just a farce,' it is always a daunting situation. There is an increasing integration between western medicine and eastern medicine, nutritional therapy and pharmacological therapy. Even 'natural' treatments are composed of chemicals- albeit naturally occurring chemicals that may be less potent than laboratory produced pharmaceuticals.

Your provider wants to be able to prescribe the most effective therapy for you. If you drastically limit scientifically established treatment options because of your philosophy- you certainly have the right to do that- but you might be depriving yourself of the most effective known treatment- which is a tough pill for any health care professional to swallow.

You deserve to have the best medical care and attention available. Sometimes, avoiding misunderstandings can make a huge difference.


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