Ideas for Memorial Garden Flowers for Your Baby

The best flowers are the ones you choose

Baby's Breath are said to represent sweetness, gentleness, or innocence. Credit: Photo © Taesam Do / Getty Images

If you're searching for a way to memorialize your baby after a miscarriage or stillbirth, planting a beautiful memorial garden can be a beautiful option. 

Choosing Flowers for Your Memorial Garden

When it comes to selecting the flowers for your garden, there are several factors to consider. For example, you might consider the types of flowers that grow best in your region and the size of your memorial garden.

Certain flowers do seem to lend themselves to memorial gardens, however, such as bleeding heart, forget-me-not, and baby’s breath. 

The Meanings of Flowers

Several cultures have assigned specific meanings to flowers, notably the Victorians and the Japanese. There are plenty of resources for flower meanings available in books and online. Below, you’ll find a list of flowers with cultural meanings that might be particularly appropriate for a child’s memorial garden. This list is by no means exhaustive but it can serve as a starting place to get you thinking about what flowers you'd like to include.

Type of Flower or PlantCommon Meaning or Significance
AcaciaEternal Love
Aloe Grief
Alyssum Grace
AmaranthImmortality, everlasting
Anemone Resurrection
AsterGod's grace, love, blessings
Baby's BreathSweet, gentle, innocent
BalmSympathy
Bellflower"Thinking of you”
Black-Eyed Susan Encouragement
CamelliaPerfected Loveliness
Columbine Gentleness
Crocus Hope
CypressMourning, sorrow
DaffodilResurrection
Daisy Innocence
Delphinium Devotion, blessings
FernsPeace, acceptance, grace, serenity, gentility, quietude
Forget-Me-NotsMemories
FuchsiaHarmony, healing for those who grieve, angels
GeraniumComfort
GladioliSincerity 
HeatherSolidtude
HeliotropeDevotion

Honeysuckle

Devoted affection, bonds of love
ImpatiensPatience, steadfastness, loving-kindness
Iris Inspiration
IvyFidelity, endurance
JasminePeace, goodwill, and healing
Larkspur Beautiful spirit
Lavender Devotion
Lily Faith, grace, and spiritual healing
Lily of the Valley Sweetness
LisianthusCalming
MarigoldPain and grief
Nasturtium Protection
Olive Peace
Pansies Gentle thoughts
Peonies Thoughts of the past, memories
Petunia Peace, harmony, serenity, uplifting of the body and soul

Pink Rose 

Grace
PoppiesEternal sleep, consolation

Queen Anne’s Lace

Femininity
Red & White Rose Unity
Tulips Faith, hope, and charity
Verbena Peace
Violets Shyness, humility, quiet joy, tender thoughts, gentle love

Rosemary

Remembrance

Star of Bethlehem 

Hope
Sweetpea Shyness, farewell
ThymePeace
White Lilac Youthful innocence, memories
White Lily Purity
White RosePurity
White Tulip Forgiveness

Birthday Month Flowers

Each month of the year also has one or more flowers associated with it. Choosing the flower for your baby’s birth month, due month, or conception month is another option for choosing meaningful flowers for your memorial garden.

MonthFlower
JanuaryCarnation
FebruaryIris, violet, primrose
MarchDaffodil
AprilDaisy
MayLily of the valley
JuneRose
JulyLarkspur, water lily, sweet pea, delphinium
AugustGladiolus
SeptemberAster, forget-me-not
OctoberCalendula (marigold)
November Chrysanthemum
DecemberHolly, poinsettia

Planting Your Favorite Flowers

While symbolism can lend a hand in choosing flowers for your memorial garden, there are no hard and fast rules that you have to include a flower for its symbolic meaning or association with a certain month of the year. If you have a favorite flower and they make you think about your baby in a happy way, then absolutely use the flowers that feel right to you. If you prefer vibrant reds to the more traditional whites or violets, those are the colors that you should include in your memorial garden. 

The most important thing to remember is that this should be a project that helps with your healing process. There are no "wrong" flowers to choose.

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