What Is Extrovert Behavior?

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What Is an Extrovert?

Most people believe that an extrovert is a person who is friendly and outgoing. While that may be true, that is not the true meaning of extroversion. Basically, an extrovert is a person who is energized by being around other people. This is the opposite of an introvert who is energized by being alone.

Extroverts tend to "fade" when alone and can easily become bored without other people around.

When given the chance, an extrovert will talk with someone else rather than sit alone and think. In fact, extroverts tend to think as they speak, unlike introverts who are far more likely to think before they speak. Extroverts often think best when they are talking. Concepts just don't seem real to them unless they can talk about them; reflecting on them isn't enough.

Extroverts enjoy social situations and even seek them out since they enjoy being around people. Their ability to make small talk makes them appear to be more socially adept than introverts (although introverts may have little difficulty talking to people they don't know if they can talk about concepts or issues).

Implications of Extroversion

Extrovert behavior seems to be the standard in American society. That means that more people in the general population are extroverts rather than introverts. Studies suggest that up to 75% of the general population consists of extroverts.

Because the majority of people are extroverts, behavior tends to be judged against the ways an extrovert would behave. For example, an introvert, who often prefers solitude to a crowd, is seen as shy or judged to have some kind of social disorder. Introverts who don't want to participate in group work are seen as not being team players.

However, extroverted behavior is simply manifesting the way an extrovert interacts with the world.

Because extroverts are energized by interaction with other people, extroverted children may need some time to wind down after having spent time socializing with other children. For example, if an extroverted child attends a party, he can come home still quite excited. She may want to talk about what happened at the party, if not with her parents, then with her friends. If the party is in the evening, the extroverted child may have a hard time getting to sleep because she is still full of energy.

An extroverted child may be quiet and get bored easily when he has to spend too much time alone. Once he is around others, however, he may immediately perk up.

What many people don't realize is that an extrovert can also be shy. This can be difficult because the extrovert really does crave company, but the shyness can make interactions with people they don't know fill them with anxiety. Shy, extroverted children are those who are probably most in need of help overcoming their shyness.

Unlike introversion, shyness is not a permanent personality trait.

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