What is Self-Esteem? How Can My Teen Get It?

Building Self-Esteem in Teens Ecourse

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What You'll Learn Today

  1. Overview of what this ecourse will do for you and your teen.
  2. What self-esteem is - and what it isn't.
  3. The reason your teen needs a healthy self-esteem.

One attribute a successful teen should have is a healthy self-esteem. By definition this means they value themselves as a person because of what they can do or have done, they trust their feelings and abilities and they are able to work toward their goals.

This is the type of adult parents strive for their children to become because people who have a healthy self-esteem can deal with any experience, even the most difficult ones, and not lose their sense of self. They act with resilience and rise above problems that might otherwise cause them to not be successful.

But, building a healthy self-esteem doesn't happen overnight, as a matter of fact it starts at birth and continues throughout one's life. Building and maintaining a healthy self-esteem takes quite a bit of effort from the parents of teenagers, as in adolescence one lays the foundation of how to handle adult experiences for their future and it's where one forms their identity separate from their parents. This four week parenting course will teach you how to make building a healthy self-esteem in your teen part of your everyday life.

What Is Self-Esteem?

Self-esteem is more than just a buzzword used in parenting books to get your attention.

It truthfully is something you need to help your child build and protect. Read more...

Why Does My Child Need a Healthy Self-Esteem?

To put it simply, your child needs self-esteem to succeed. While it isn't the only thing he will need to have in order to enjoy a successful life, it is a key attribute.

Read everything a teen with self-esteem can do here. According to Self-Esteem-International.org, a lower self-esteem is the precursor for many troubled teen problems and struggles:

"Low self-esteem is the universal common denominator among literally all people suffering from addictions to any and all mind altering substances such as alcohol - not genes. In the book Alcoholism: A False Stigma: Low Self-Esteem the True Disease, (1996) Candito reports, "Those who have identified themselves as "recovered alcoholics" indicate that low self esteem is the most significant problem in their lives. Low self-esteem is the true problem and the true disease. Alcohol is but a symptom of an alcoholic's disease. Candito comes to the conclusion that low self-esteem is the underlying origin of all problematic behaviors, and the true disease that plagues the world, resulting in alcohol abuse, drug abuse, and all other obsessive behavior including criminal behavior.

This conclusion is also shared by Andrew Keegan (1987) who maintains that low self-esteem either causes or contributes to neurosis, anxiety, defensiveness, and ultimately alcohol and drug abuse. The reason why some become alcoholic while others do not is dependent upon their ability to contend with low self-esteem."

It is important to note that working towards having a higher self-esteem is not once and done thing. Nor is self-esteem fixed by just telling someone that they have done well at something. Praise for praise sake backfires when dealing with those who have low self-esteem. Building and maintaining one's self-esteem has to be a part of a person's everyday process, like having the good habit of brushing one's teeth. When you do it daily your teeth are not only clean that day, but your overall dental hygiene is good and you get fewer, if any, cavities.

Parenting Quiz: Is This a Healthy Self-Esteem?

Can you tell which of these teens has a healthy self-esteem?

Answer the questions based on the information you have and assume nothing else is going on in their life. Take the quiz here.

Parenting Homework: Become Aware and Strengthen Your Own Self-Esteem

Pay some extra special attention to yourself this week. Give yourself a pat on the back and shake off any negative emotions you may have been feeling. Use these tips to show you how: Become Aware and Strengthen Your Own Self-Esteem.

Encourage Positive Teen Friendships - Start Now
Everyone needs positive peer interaction. It helps maintain self-esteem, builds confidence and broadens one's perspective. Not to mention that it is enjoyable to have good friends.

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