When Will My Partner Feel the Baby Move?

When will I feel my baby move?

Partner Holding Mom's Pregnant Abdomen
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"When will I feel my baby move?" is often quickly replaced by "when will someone else be able to feel the baby move?" While it takes a mom a good 24 weeks to begin feeling the baby move, it will take your husband or partner and others longer.

Sometime between weeks 28-32 of pregnancy others around you can begin feel the baby move if they put their hands on your belly at the right moment and in the right spot.

The baby just needs to be a bit bigger before it can be felt from the outside. However, be aware that baby will play games eventually with movement and outsiders and you may have to be patient.

"Every single time my mother would try to feel the baby move, and he would stop, just as she put her hand on my belly," remembers Amanda. "It was like a game. He would be moving consistently, and I'd ensure it wasn't just a single nudge. I would use sign language to get her to come over and feel the baby and he'd just stop.That little stinker!"

What Prevents You From Feeling Your Baby Move

There are some things that can make feeling your baby move harder. This includes:

  • Extra padding: If you are overweight or carry extra weight around your abdomen, it may take longer to feel the baby because the movements have to be stronger and larger to feel the extra skin. This doesn't mean it's impossible, just less likely earlier on.
  • An anterior placenta: If your placenta is located at the front of your uterus, your baby's movements will need to be bigger and stronger to be felt through the placenta. This will also typically make it longer for you feeling your baby move for the first time, let alone others.
  • The position of the baby: Some positions that your baby assumes means their kicks and movements are more easily felt than others. This is not necessarily a bad thing for baby, just hard to explain to well-meaning, but persistent relatives who really, really want to feel a few baby kicks.

    How Others Feel About Feeling Your Baby Move

    Other people typically fall into two categories when it comes to feeling the baby move: those who can't wait to feel the baby move and those who do not want to feel the baby move. Those who don't want to feel the baby move have a variety of reasons that they don't want to feel the baby move, including, not wanting to touch your body in an intimate way.

    For those who are excited to feel the baby move, they can be really persistent. You will have to decide how much you are willing to try to let them feel your belly. You might tell them, once a visit or make up some arbitrary rule. You have complete ownership over your body and say as to who touches you when and where.

    Remember that simply because you said yes to them feeling the baby move once, does not mean that you have given them an all access pass to feeling your belly or baby.

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