Why Mothers Need Friends For Stress Relief

Every Mother Needs Her Friends!

Friends are a valuable resource for mothers
Friends are a vital resource for mothers. Hero Images/Hero Images/Getty Images

Motherhood can bring amazing rewards, as any mother will tell you. However, it can bring a good measure of stress, leaving many moms exhausted and even at an increased risk of depression. That’s why self care for mothers is especially important. And although mothers often think of the need for their children to have healthy social lives, one of the greatest resources a mom has is social support. Because of this, friends and other mothers can be a valuable resource.

Mothers need the support of friends for several reasons.


Social Support

Social support is important for health and stress relief; it increases resilience, multiplies joy, and softens sorrow.

Sharing Advice

Nobody understands the issues moms face every day like another mother who’s been through the same thing! While all mothers don’t experience all challenges, or experience them in the same way, the wisdom of having been there and the benefit of another mother’s answers can provide terrific solutions and provide reassurance. Moms of younger kids can benefit from the experience of more veteran mothers, and can gain confidence by helping out the more junior moms.

Getting Out There

Sometimes mothers can become so immersed in caretaking that they forget to do the things they enjoy. Other moms can help a mother get out there and enjoy what they enjoy doing!

Here are some tips for using mother friends and social support to relieve stress and stay at the top of your game as a mom:


Get Together for Play Dates

Meeting for play dates with other mothers and their children can provide positive social interaction for the kids and a nice dose of female bonding for the moms.

Have a Moms Night Out

While it’s fun to get together with the kids, getting together with mother friends one night a month or so can provide a whole different experience.

Over a few drinks, the most interesting topics of conversation can arise: how husbands were met, what other moms were like pre-kid, etc. It offers a whole new level of fun and bonding, and gives moms a break.

Maintain Variety

Another great benefit of motherhood is that it connects women who would otherwise have little in common, or not even cross paths. Women can really benefit by connecting with other moms who are years younger or older, from a different background, or otherwise different from the friends she would usually seek out.

Help One Another

Moms can even give one another some needed nights out by forming a babysitting co-op. They can help make difficult times easier by bringing dinners to new moms or offering aid in times of crisis. These activities build a sense of community and set a good example for kids, and everyone benefits!

Go Online

Today’s moms have an amazing resource in the internet, to the point that it's almost taken for granted. Not only is it easy to research any problem a mom may be experiencing, but the ability to forge a support system that conveniently fits into spare pockets of time is invaluable!

 It's great to take advantage of social media, as most moms do, but getting in touch with meet-ups and groups of like-minded families in your area can be easy with a quick online search as well.  The internet is great for staying in touch with friends and getting in touch with new people.  (Just beware of too much social comparison!)

Keep In Touch With Old Friends

Motherhood changes a woman in many ways. Old friendships often change, but shouldn’t be forgotten. Keeping close with old friends helps a mom stay connected to who she is as a person, and both parties can benefit by growing into a new phase of relationship.

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