Why Your Tween Needs Time Alone

A little time alone can help your tween in many ways

A little time alone can help your tween destress.
Allow your child time alone to daydream and think about the future.

As a parent you probably ensure that your child has time in his or her busy schedule for homework, chores, extra curricular activities, and social activities. But do you make sure your tween has time to be alone? Many adults assume that children and even tweens and teens constantly desire the company of others. But your growing and ever changing child may benefit from a little alone time every now and then.

The benefits of time alone can help your tween cope with anxieties, pressures, and responsibilities. Below are a few reasons alone time for your tween might be exactly what's needed. 

Alone Time for Your Tween -- Make it a Priority


Time to Imagine: Your older child is ready to take on a few new responsibilities, such as an increase in homework and perhaps even more responsibility at home. But tweens still need time to daydream and imagine, just like they did when they were little. Give your child a little space so that he or she can dream about the future, and maybe even strategize on how to make it all possible. Encourage your child to journal or take up a solitary hobby, such as photography, to get your child focused on thoughts, dreams, and goals.

Time to Destress: More and more young people are suffering from over scheduled calendars and stressful school and home lives. Bullying and social challenges can make any tween's life stressful beyond belief.

Help your tween destress from a busy day, or a stressful situation, with a little time alone. Your child may be able to calm himself or herself down or think of ways to manage a situation at school or with a relative or friend. Your tween may still ask you for your help and opinion, but now that he or she is older he or she may be ready to take on some of his or her own problem solving situations.

Time alone will aid him or her in attempts to manage a crisis.

Time to Relax and Regroup: Adults know that a good book or a quick nap is often the solution to a stressful or busy day. Let your tween discover that a little quiet time in his or her room might be all that's needed to recharge the batteries. Alone time with music, a family pet, or one's thoughts is often the remedy when life's challenges get you down. Even a bubble bath or a long, hot shower will help your child reenergize and recover from a busy day.

Time to Get Things Done: Time alone can be relaxing, to be sure, but a little time alone can also be quite productive. When left alone your tween may finish homework and get ahead on other projects, clean his or her room or bathroom, plan the weekend, or write thank you notes for all those presents received at the last birthday.  Allow your tween the luxury of figuring out how to prioritize his or her time alone, and you might be surprised by what he or she accomplishes.

Appreciates Time Together: Spending time alone can help your child better appreciate the time he or she spends with you, other family members or her friends. If your tween seems agitated with her loved ones, it might be time to suggest he or she spend some time alone.

Those solitary moments may enhance the moments he or she spends with you at the dinner table, in the car commuting to a soccer game, or an afternoon with grandparents or friends.

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