Inspiring Quotes and Sayings About the Death of an Infant

Uplifting sayings and quotes to read after the death of an infant

A gravemarker labeled "Infant"
Author A.A. Milne wrote: "Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart.". Photo © Chris Raymond

The loss of an infant is likely to put you at a loss for words. But you may be called upon to deliver a eulogy or want to find some appropriate words for a condolence card to the child's family. You want to support them in their grief and you are likely to need to work through your own emotions about the loss.

These quotes and sayings can be inspirations for what to include in a note to the family or for use in a memorial service.

Nicholas Evans, English journalist and author
"Listen for my footfall in your heart.
I am not gone but merely walk within you."

Author unknown
"Gone yet not forgetten,
although we are apart,
your spirit lives within me,
forever in my heart."

Stephanie Paige Cole, American author
"I held you every second of your life."

Author unknown
"A life may last just for a moment, but memory can make that moment last forever."

R.J. Gonzales, American author
"A flower bloomed already wilting. Beginning its life with an early ending."

Author unknown
"Perhaps they are not the stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones shines through to let us know they are with us."

Dr. Seuss (Theodor Seuss Geisel), American author and cartoonist
"A person's a person, no matter how small."

Author unknown
"Beautiful memories silently kept of a baby we love and will never forget."

A.A. Milne, English author
"Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart."

Dorothy Ferguson, American author and therapist
"How very softly you tiptoed into our world, almost silently, only a moment you stayed. But what an imprint your footsteps have left upon our hearts."

Author unknown
"There is no foot so small that it cannot leave an imprint on this world."

Edna St. Vincent Millay, American poet and playwright
"Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime, and falling in at night.

I miss you like hell."

Ernest Hemingway, American author
"I didn't want to kiss you goodbye, that was the trouble; I wanted to kiss you goodnight. And there's a lot of difference."

Author unknown
"Tiny Angel, can you tell me why you have gone away? You weren’t here for very long… why is it you couldn’t stay?"
Tiny Angel shook his head: “These things I do not know… But I do know that you love me, and that I love you so."

Jean Kerr, American author and playwright
"Hope is the feeling that the feeling you have isn't permanent."

Christine O'Keeffe Lafser, American author
"Some people say it is a shame. Others even imply that it would have been better if the baby had never been created. But the short time I had with my child is precious to me. It is painful to me, but I still wouldn't wish it away."

Author unknown
"The amount of time on earth matters very little: a man can live in greed and pride 90 years and never find God, know Him or accomplish His plan. A stillborn baby, on the other hand, teaches people to love, brings people to the Lord, teaches us the tenuous nature of life and teaches us a faith that those who have not suffered loss can never know."

E.E. Cummings, American poet
"i carry your heart with me (i carry it in my heart)
i am never without it (anywhere i go you go, my dear;
and whatever is done by only me is your doing, my darling)

Helen Keller, American author and activist
"What we have once enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes a part of us."

Author unknown
"If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again."

Barbara Kingsolver, American author and poet
"A miscarriage is a natural and common event. All told, probably more women have lost a child from this world than haven't. Most don't mention it, and they go on from day to day as if it hadn't happened, so people imagine a woman in this situation never really knew or loved what she had.

But ask her sometime: how old would your child be now? And she'll know."

Author unknown
"Some say you are too painful to remember. I say you are too precious to forget!

Charlotte Brontë, English author
"There is, I am convinced, no picture that conveys in all its dreadfulness, a vision of sorrow, despairing, remediless, supreme. If I could paint such a picture, the canvas would show only a woman looking down at her empty arms."

John DeFrain, American author and university professor
"The death of a baby is like a stone cast into the stillness of a quiet pool; the concentric ripples of despair sweep out in all directions, affecting many, many people."

Author unknown
"I thought we'd have more time."

C.S. Lewis, Irish author, literary critic and poet
"Her absence is like the sky, spread over everything."

Author unknown
"If love could have saved you, you would have lived forever."

A.A. Milne, English author
"If there ever comes a day when we can't be together, keep me in your heart. I'll stay there forever."

A Word From Verywell

The loss of an infant can be traumatic and heartbreaking. You and the family will go through several phases of grief. You may find that a grief support group can help you and the family. Grief can become complicated grief and you may need further assistance so you can move past the grief and work on unresolved issues.

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