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The Judgment That Comes From Admitting You Need Help

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For many people, there is the assumption that, if you need therapy, it must mean you have serious issues you cannot handle on your own; and, therefore, there is something flawed or defective about you. In reality, taking the step to seek therapy is an act of personal wellness and courage. People who seek treatment are on the healthier side of self-love and emotional intelligence. None of us are here to do life alone and seeking guidance is a marker of long-term success, satisfaction and increased happiness.

Never be ashamed that you are well enough to know when you need help.  Being open about your choice to seek help can only inspire others to do the same for themselves.

1.  Therapy Benefits Those Who Seek It.  None of us are completely equipped to be 100% objective in our own lives. The fact is, life will bring you to your knees at times and therapy is the perfect way to get that objective view on your current life challenge to help you through it. When you have another person’s mind involved in your challenge, it helps you to get clear on what patterns you have that work for you and which patterns need to change in order for you to be happier and more fulfilled in your life.

Therapy is a great tool to use to learn new ways to think, new ways to make decisions and to be open to new directions to take in your life. It is comforting to have a guide through times of uncertainty or confusion. It decreases feelings of aloneness and it empowers you to learn to stand on your own.

2. Healthy People Want Help.  Healthy people are on the search for continual improvement, self-awareness and more effective solutions to life’s problems. If you have stepped into a therapy office, you are showing insight into your life. Healthy people are open and willing to take direction from another person.

They have enough self-awareness to know when they need help and when they do not.  In this way, therapy becomes a mode for continual expansion and improvement in the quality of one’s emotional life.

3. Those Who Need to Be "Right" Avoid Therapy. The unhealthiest people, the people who need treatment the most, are the people who judge and downgrade therapy. In their mind, they are never wrong, it is always someone else’s fault, and they should not have to change. From their perception, it is the world that needs to change. 

A large majority of people who seek therapy are those trying to deal with the relationships they have with these crazy-makers—the spouses, the children, the partners, the parents. People who need to be right most often cannot benefit from therapy because they have little to no insight into themselves.

4. Take Charge of Your Personal Journey. If you have chosen to attend therapy, be proud of it.  Most people who experience the benefits of therapy tend to brag about how much the therapy is changing their lives.

All of us want to be happy in life; and, when you communicate about your therapy as a major benefit to your life, you will be surprised how many people either ask for your therapist’s information or confess back to you they have also sought therapy. 

When you own and take pride in your growth, much to your surprise, many others will take your lead.  It is a great step into discovering the power you have within you to take charge of determining the quality of your life.

5. Stretch To Higher Levels. Therapy is that space created to facilitate your growth into the higher levels of life and understanding you wish to achieve. Most successful people regularly attend some type of therapy, whether that be coaching, mentoring, therapy, motivational seminars, reading self-help books or something else. It is really all the same stuff being delivered through a different channel.  Never be ashamed of something that is improving the quality of your life.

If someone is judging you for your choice to seek therapy, it says more about that person and their ignorance and insecurity than it says about your desire to improve your life and become a happier, more satisfied person.  Take hold of what you are willing to do to make your life more understandable to you and live it with confidence. Emotions are contagious, so those around you will take on the attitude that you hold about your choice to go to therapy.  If you communicate that you love it and it is transforming your life, make sure to carry the business card of your therapist because you will be surprised at how many people all want the same thing…a happier and more satisfying life.

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